old racer; When I was developing loads for my 44 Mag Smith snubbie, I shot a 250, a 300, and a 325, all at 1000 fps. The recoil with the heavier bullets seemed to me to be more "comfortable". Instead of the sharp "slap" that was made by the 250, the 300 and 325's felt more like a "thud" or a push, so, the recoil of the light versus heavy was "different"....although I did notice as Don had stated that the recovery time seemed to me to be a bit slower with the heavier bullets. I guess its all about an individuals perception of what is comfortable to shoot, so, in the end you need to be the judge.