Hi doglips. hahahaha. I like saying that. Anyhoo, your wife would prolly like a small frame 9mm over the 380. The 9 has a bigger bullet and you can get guns that have magazine capacities between 9-12 rounds, depending on the specific weapon. I happen to love the .380 round and shoot the lights out with my ****** FEG PMK and my new-to-me Interarms Walther PPK. I feel because of the inherent barrel stability of a blow-back weapon, the 380 is the more accurate round compared to a 9. The problem is the .380 doesn't deliver the same amount energy into a target as a 9. Hope this helps.