Carry as much gun as possible and she is comfortable with. The gun is no good if it's too big and doesn't get carried or used.
I'd go with 9mm but my own choice is a S&W J frame. I've also used a Sig 239, Sig 232 and a 1911. Most of the time it's a 340PD or a 342.

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