Each one of us has their "pet load" that we have confidence in and like the spec's we have read about it. Some guys like lighter faster bullets, some like slower heavier bullets. My preference is a FAST HEAVY BULLET.
Check out Buffalo Bores "heavy" 38 special +p 158 gr. SWCHP-CG. It will give you an honest 1100 fps (and about 365 ft. lbs. of energy) out of a 4" bbl. revolver. I have personally chronographed them out of my 2" chief special at 1040 fps. That's huge!!! The recoil is slightly stiffer than a regular +p of similar weight, but the performance is about double!!

I would not want to stand in front of a 125 gr. +P either, but I always go for maximum performance providing that the quality, reliability and performance is there. In this case the BB ammo does exactly what they say it will do.

Chief38