Use the Remington Golden Saber in .357 or the Speer Gold Dot SB if you can't find the Remington. Both rounds are mid-range .357s and neither round will give you a problem with excessive penetration. There's no reason to shoot 38 +P when mid-range .357s are available. Neither the Remington or Speer load produces excessive flash and recol with both is very controllable. I've shot ~300 rounds of the Remington load and 100 rounds of the Speer and they are accurate and controllable. The only live target experience that I have had was finishing off a deer hit by a car. The deer's hip was smashed and it was dragging its hind quarters. At 50 feet a Golden Saber out of a Ruger SP101 behind the shoulder ended its suffering instantly and did not exit.

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ADP3