After trying about everything in wood and synthetic, I went to factory J-Frame wood "service" grips and a Tyler T-Grip.
This setup seems to fit my meaty palm/short pudgy finger hand configuration better than any other grip setup I've tried.
The wood grip also seems easier to draw from a pocket than any of the rubber ones I tried. Also, this setup seems to distribute recoil as well as any.
YMMV.