I have both the XDS45 and the Shield 9. To me the XDS doesn't recoil that much and this is the first 45 I have shot. In fact the shield 40 (to me) kicks more than the XDS45. The grip safety is a non issue. If you hold a gun properly it will not engage. I find it almost impossible to not fire because of the grip safety when I grab the gun. If it bothers you, please check your grip. The XDS is a fine firearm so is the shield. I carry both in a rotation. the XDS is more expensive but you get a nice plastic case, 2 mags, holster, mag carries, lock and cleaning brush. Its a classy set up. I just got cardboard box with my shield. both have had their growing pains but both of mine have been great so far. I would NOT shy away from an XDS or shield IMO. Is the XDS worth a $100 more? well, that's up to you. I love having a 45 in a small carry gun. in fact I am finding easier to conceal than the shield.