When I got my first LEO job, when off duty, the wife would ask, "Do you have to carry that pistol?" After many years, I wore her down. She became a target shooter and competed for a couple of years. For the past several years, she has had an unlimited "handgun license", but she seldom carries. I'm long ago retired. Now though, once in a while, when she feels uncomfortable, she says, "You have your gun on you, don't you?" Of course I do!