The 49 or 649 all steel J-frame meets my needs quite well when pocket carried in a Mika pocket holster. I do not find the weight bothersome.
I have tried some of the 'lighter' alloy version J-frames , and although I like the weight, I do not like the recoil that I experience. So, I stick with the steel versions.
Mine are .38 Spl. and provide SA/DA options. Both are deadly accurate and the choices of ammunition abound.
Best of luck in your search. Try renting a couple if that option is available to you.
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