could someone please identify a post which addresses someone directing a spouse which gun must be carried?

The op made a very wise purchase with the 9mm sp 101- for the recoil sensitive it is a much better choice than the LCR 9mm even with the noticeably better LCR trigger/weight advantage.

Something that does require comment is the post regarding the 'amplification' of an incident should a .22 be used. While we do NOT have .22lr snub experience we do have extensive .22 wmr time and we both can positively state that the only aspect of a self defense incident which will be amplified should the snub wmr have to be shown/used is the ending of the incident.

There are a few drawbacks to the wmr, trigger pull is one; the Ruger is far better than any Smith we have handled though COST of ammo and periodic unavailability MUST be considered.

A .380 semi? no, not for the average civilian-the revolver remains the best choice both in terms of learning and maint-to argue otherwise is to segue into irrationality.

When all is said and done the 9mm revolver is by far the best choice for those with no limiting physical conditions and IS by far the best option when performance is calculated into the decision.

From a snub the 9mm gives at least .357 energy at about half the cost and probably half the recoil, blast/flame with fewer legal implications from what I can discover.

Why the FBI Went to 9mm and Why You Should Too - The Loadout Room

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