Geesh! I’m nearly stunned. I just don’t know of anyone who ever had serious problems with a 41. Lots of guys aren’t wild about the trigger, but other than that - nothing! I’m sure sorry to hear of your troubles. As you say, for a $1400 target pistol, expecting it to run properly without any customer-applied tuning/fiddling is not asking too much. You are wise to move on. Enough is enough.
BTW, has nothing to do with your situation but it might interest you to know all new ones are not that way. I have a friend with a 7-inch standard-model 41 that is probably two months old, maybe three. His gun works fine and he’s very happy with it. I’ve seen it, but not fired it. Looks good to me.
PS... nearly everyone I know uses CCI SV when we can get it.