Again, ask "Who's life is it anyway?" One acquaintance told me he was on active duty for 3 years, 9 years in the National Guard, left because the wife was always whining about his absences. Now, at age 60, still has the wife, doesn't have the pension. Gun ownership is a make or break requirement in a relationship, won't put up with a smoker or a drinker or a drug user either.
Another acquaintance told me what destroyed his marriage was they spent every vacation at his wife's parents. She couldn't let go of her girlhood, they couldn't let go of her.
I am one of those old bachelors-71. Missed the bus ? Lost track of the number of people who used to kid me about it now say they envy my independence, financial security, etc. As the old saying goes, "It is better to be alone than to wish you were. And giving ultimatums is a form of intimidation-and bullying.


People do change, rarely for the better.