Do you have a "girl from yesterday"?

[walkin jack]

A girl (or guy for you ladies) that circumstances and timing were all against. I do. Don't get me wrong here I love Miss Pam more than my own life. She has been my dream girl for the last 45 years and I wouldn't trade anything for the life we've had together and the life we have left ahead of us.

Still, it's hard not to speculate on what might have been had things gone just a little differently. In my case it was a missed phone call.

This music video by Little Texas is very moving and touches me deeply as it might anyone with a similar experience. I haven't heard it for years and just ran across it on YouTube. Hard to describe the feeling of wondering...What might have been.

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[THE PILGRIM]

You bet! If I start talking about them, it'll probably sound like somewhere between gossip and bragging.
One of the reasons to join the Military is to roam around and meet the locals (ladies).
Just remember that old rule- you always meet the crazy ********es first!
Waylon say it like this-

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[gregintenn]

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I'm married to mine.

[M1A]

Second time around, I got exactly what I wanted. Still crazy in love.

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[Rustyt1953]

In my line of work, I had done my share of wandering until I met Ruthie. This as our wedding song and I still get emotional hearing it. I never pondered the "what if" as I hit the jackpot!

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[pawngal]

From the mid 60's thru the 80's he and I never managed to be single at the same time. Come 1990 we got it right, best 23 years of my life after that.

[Grip_Maker's_Wife]

Originally Posted by Walkin' Jack

In my case it was a missed phone call.

missed phone call = fate = meant to be the way it turned out.

Funny enough, I don't even spend one second thinking about what "might have been". I was in a long relationship with someone who was an heir to a rather large fortune. My life would have been different if I had stayed but would have sucked lemons. I consider myself to be the luckiest woman being with my husband. I never knew how big and wonderful true love could be and for me that is what matters. He is my sunshine. I have no desire to look back.

[DeathGrip]

There was a set of twins back in highschool......

[DeathGrip]

Originally Posted by Rustyt1953

In my line of work, I had done my share of wandering until I met Ruthie. This as our wedding song and I still get emotional hearing it. I never pondered the "what if" as I hit the jackpot!

Yep. It took me a long time and a few girls until we found each other. I'll never ask what if when it comes to the others.

I ask what if about her. I was lucky for the time I had but feel cheated for the time cut short. I don't think I could ever get serious again.

[arjay]

I was married for about 30 years to the cutest,sweetest girl,but she had a bit of a drinking problem.The dry years were great,but in the end she chose gin.A few from the past have come knocking,but I still think she was the pick of the litter.

[Stevens]

Here is another one on that subject

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Steve W

[Comrad]

There was this one cocktail waitress in a Dolly Parton wig......

[vytoland]

i never think about the past....the last 50 years have been awesome.......

[SW MP15]

I've been with the same lady since I was 16 and she was 15! We are now 60 and 59. We have two great kids! That are now 40 and 38. The first few years where rocky, but I knew in my heart I could always trust her with anything I had.

I wouldn't change a thing!

[sheepdawg]

Originally Posted by Comrad

There was this one cocktail waitress in a Dolly Parton wig......

Unless I was sure she had a few more of Dolly's attributes I might would'a been careful with that one.

[Coldshooter]

Interesting you posted this when you did. Just last thursday I was reminded of my first girlfriend. Had I not screwed up we might still be a couple. A year later I met the woman I have been married to for forty years. Applied the lessons learned. Don't know what might have been but she was a sweety. This last forty has been good I was given a great second chance.

[LVSteve]

Girls from yesterday? Tell me about it. I can be as dumb as a stump when it comes to noticing that girls like me. My favourite trick was to ask out the wrong one in a pair that was running together. I lost count of the number of times I pulled that stunt.

[smokindog]

WOW, my "what if wonder" is still up in Cincinnati and we'd often sit outside with an adult beverage staring up into the sky with this song playing! Must be the water.

Originally Posted by Rustyt1953

In my line of work, I had done my share of wandering until I met Ruthie. This as our wedding song and I still get emotional hearing it. I never pondered the "what if" as I hit the jackpot!
Etta James - At Last - YouTube

[chud333]

Originally Posted by Rustyt1953

In my line of work, I had done my share of wandering until I met Ruthie. This as our wedding song and I still get emotional hearing it. I never pondered the "what if" as I hit the jackpot!
Etta James - At Last - YouTube

This exactly for me ^^^^^
I have been Blessed. I married way above my head.
Shirley is everything to me and that's enough.
Don't even wanna play the "what if" game.
It's all good.


Chuck

[Jack Flash]

I learned a long time ago to keep my mouth shut about exgirlfriends.

[WuzzFuzz]

I'm surprised someone hasn't mentioned ole Willy Nelson,
"To all the girls I've known before...Whose traveled in and out my door, who's now someone else's wife"...etc. etc.


Yep, that one I can really relate to.


WuzzFuzz

[Bill Bates]

There are a number of girls but I glad my life turned out like it has. Last weekend I celebrated a 35 years with a wonderful young lady.

At times I do wonder where some woman ended up. When I hear this song I think about looking up some old girl friends to see if they would like to be part of a photo project. Well maybe someday.

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[chud333]

This was played at our wedding. Since everybody is relating
to song tonight.
https://youtu.be/KLVq0IAzh1A
Sting--
Fields of Gold

Chuck

[petepeterson]

Originally Posted by chud333

This was played at our wedding. Since everybody is relating
to song tonight.
https://youtu.be/KLVq0IAzh1A
Sting--
Fields of Gold

Chuck

Hey! Mine too! Good song.

I think she took the CD with her when we kicked her butt out!

[carpriver]

Like many who have posted I am married to my soul mate my best friend, my partner; we have been married for 48 years. I have thought about the girl I dated the last 2 years of high school. I thought she would be the one I spent the rest of my life with. The closer we got to graduation the more things started to change between us. She wanted to go to nursing school I wanted to work as a tool and die maker. I knew I was close to being drafted so I enlisted. I saw her 3 times after basic training. Then I met my wife. She was the girl for me, we knew it when we first met.

Things happen for a reason, I am happy with the choice I made. The girl dated in high school did/does have a spot in my heart And I wanted best for her. I don't think you forget your first serious love.

[shotgun693]

I have a nice little cabin where I live alone. Things could have been different but they aren't. Life ain't always fun and games.

[CATI1835]

There was one for me. I saw her off and on for a few years, but as you said, the timing was always wrong. I thought about her often over the next 40+ years, always wondering what if... About five years ago I made an effort to seek her out. I surprised her with a call out of the clear blue and after a few minutes she remembered me and we talked a bit. We agreed to meet for coffee. When I saw her face to face I was surprised. Somewhere in my mind I expected to see the beautiful 18 year old I always remembered. Instead, I saw a 60+ year old woman, whose face showed every bit of it. Don't misunderstand me, she was the same Alice I remembered in every other way, a very beautiful and caring person. I enjoyed very much seeing her again. I probably made the same impression on her. She probably saw me and wondered who that old man was. I don't think about her as much these days. The stark reality of passing time has finally made its brutal impact felt on my memories. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and she is really the best thing that could have happened to me. I retired shortly after we met and haven't been in contact with her since. I am still glad I did take the time to seek her out. No more wondering what if...

[timjake]

Brings an oldie to mind - That Girl Belongs to Yesterday sung by Gene Pitney

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[4506517]

I think about it all the time.

I wish our timing had been better.

[bigride]

I could always get drunk enough...but she never could.

Kidding of course. I've been married for more years than I've been single. February will mark 26 years. She's THE ONE.

[BC38]

I've been happily married for 29 years. I wouldn't trade my wife for any other woman in the whole world.
However I do have a "girl from yesterday". I think just about everybody does - except for those who have a "BOY from yesterday".

Mine was my first love from high school. But it just wasn't meant to be, and I'm OK with that. She and I had a very stormy relationship and it could NEVER have lasted the way my marriage has. We were too much alike - whereas my wife and I are polar opposites in many ways.

There are two songs that always bring my old flame to mind. The first one is "Little Jeannie" by Elton John - her name is Jean and we were dating at the time the song was popular.

The other is "In your Wildest Dreams" by The Moody Blues. This one was released just before my wife and I got married and it's about a guy wondering if his first love - his "girl from yesterday" ever thinks about him and if she also wonders what could have been.

EDIT: I somehow missed it the first time but I see Stevens has put up a youtube link to the Moody Blues song in post #11 above. Kind of a haunting song....

[Beemerguy53]

Back in 1972, when I was just 19 years old, I was crazy in love (or maybe just in heat) with a wonderful girl...who dumped me for her dope-smoking, dishonorably discharged, ne'er-do-well ex-boyfriend. She really did break my heart...

I got married in 1976, got divorced some years later, and for the past 14 years I've been crazy in love (and in heat) with the most beautiful lady I have ever laid my eyes on. I wouldn't trade her for the world, but from time to time I think back 43 years and wonder "what if"...

I think that's only normal...I suspect most of us have done it from time to time...

[rwsmith]

A girlfriend really tried to get me to change my mind, but I believe that I married the right one for the long haul. Some of the things she said, were true but here I am still married 37 years later and happier than I've ever been in my life. I can't say it's all been peaches and cream, but is it ever???

I'd met several girls that I liked....a lot. And one especially. But I didn't pursue them ANYTHING like I did the one I married.

Dang this is making me think. I was no lady's man but I dated a LOT more girls than I ever thought I did...

PS: At about my 10 tenth high school reunion I saw girls that WERE bucktooth, freckly gangly and said "YOWZA, how they BLOOM!", what was wrong with me? I think the problem might have been that back then I was bucktooth, freckly, gangly.....

[rwsmith]

Originally Posted by CATI1835

No more wondering what if...

Reality can be a LOT different.

[lawandorder]

"Fantasy", or "What if" loves are the easy ones!

[petepeterson]

With no sarcasm intended, I think it's admirable that so many replies here tout the virtues of their long marriage. I think it says something about the character of the members of this forum.

Just because my mine didn't work out, I still believe in the institution of marriage. I tip my hat to the 66% of you that are typing those stories of your own free will!

[WuzzFuzz]

Well...If I may be somewhat crass here....and reflecting it to what my post above was, of Willie Nelson singing "To all the girls I loved before".....

Finding the right one is/was sort of like buying a pair of pants...You have to try them on to make sure they fit. But....you have to make sure you don't "soil" in them, so you can't take them back.

Sure I wonder what some of them "Might" have been...I saw one later on in life, and I'm glad it wasn't.

Now you other LEO's and former LEOs know what I'm talking about here...We seemed to have the worst track record of maintaining a good relationship. It's a fact...The sometimes odd hours..When I went on, it was hammered over and over, what happens on the job stays on the job...We were told not even to discuss with our wives what we had seen or done during our shift, because the "wives" might gossip to someone and the story would get out about what happened. And the story was not for the world to see. So right off, we were, (I was doomed) from sharing with the Mrs. my life. The only ones who understood what was going on in our life, was hanging out with other LEOs..(Group therapy???)

Give me a bit of credit here folks....I kept them honest....I never moved my clothes into their closet, nor they into mine...The ones I did marry, we never did live together before marriage....Might have went to the No Tell Motel, but didn't live together before hand.

Now then, back to my crass saying...Eventually one finds the right pair of pants...They fit..Eventually they are the ones you want to have for everyday...For work, for play, for dress, for casual. They're your go to pants...Maybe they get a little thread bare, a few stains here and there, but still they're the ones you want...because they fit. They're the style, size, and color you have always wanted. No alterations needed.

Well, for me, those pair of pants are gone....Now I just have to go around in my skivies..That's ok, because I'll never find another pair that fit like my last pair was.


WuzzFuzz

[Donn]

Memories are usually very kind. A man never forgets his first love. There is a good cure. A chance encounter or photo will usually slam dunk you back to reality. She ain't what she used to be. To be fair, she's probably thinking the same thing about you.

[FPrice]

Yeah, there was one. We met in 7th grade and went through school together through HS graduation. However she always went for the older guys (and they went for her, she was WELL endowed). Until our senior year when there were no more older guys and we dated for that year.

We graduated, she went to college and I was accepted at the Academy and went off to start my military career after a five day summer. Saw her once the next spring when I visited her school. It was in the flight pattern of Wright-Patterson and as I was watching the airplanes (still can't help but look up when I hear the sound of airplane engines) as she introduced me to her sorority big sister (a woman we will get to know later).

Well the inevitable happened, she dumped me for other guys who were closer and available. I managed to get over that and get on with my life.

Fast forward to the summer before our senior years. Saw her briefly and she indicated that she would like to get back together with me. Unknown to me at that time her sorority big sis just graduated and was off to Denver for Grad School. Fran asked her to watch over me and make sure that I did not get taken by any other woman. Well, you can guess what happened. That started a split in their friendship that has lasted even til today.

I saw her occasionally over the next few decades. Age was not always kind to her. Like many well-endowed young women the rest of her body caught up to her other assets. She finally married but never had any kids while the big sis who was supposed to keep me safe gave us two tremendously great daughters.

If I could go back, I'd still make the same choices. But the memories are still there and probably are at least a small part of what made me who I am today, for better or worse.

[SPEEDGUNNER]

Don't we all? This is a great thread that brought back some pleasant memories...

[jimmyj]

Now that the my light at the end of the tunnel is getting real close I think back to the girls I dated in the past. My sincere hope and prayer is that they all had long and happy lives.

*** a spouse that can live with a emergency service worker has a special place in Heaven waiting for them.

[the ringo kid]

Originally Posted by LVSteve

Girls from yesterday? Tell me about it. I can be as dumb as a stump when it comes to noticing that girls like me. My favourite trick was to ask out the wrong one in a pair that was running together. I lost count of the number of times I pulled that stunt.

You and me both brother.

[the ringo kid]

Originally Posted by WuzzFuzz

I'm surprised someone hasn't mentioned ole Willy Nelson,
"To all the girls I've known before...Whose traveled in and out my door, who's now someone else's wife"...etc. etc.


Yep, that one I can really relate to.


WuzzFuzz

Another one is: The Wanderer by: Dion?????

[the ringo kid]

I've had nothing but bad or sad luck. Not in finding a girlfriend but in keeping one I really adored.

I've never mentioned Misty before, but she was killed in a car accident and this one still hurts when I think of her.

Heather, I lost her because an child molester/probably still an inmate....kidnapped and raped her which understandably, messed her mind up some. I'd now have been married for 20 years had scott shaw not done what it did.

Now I have to worry about Sabrina's health issues. I'm probably going to lose her if she has to relocate to Houston? The other thing I do not want to think about.

[jarhead1178]

I ain't talkin.

[loknload]

SPEED-GUNNER ,,,,Don't we all? This is a great thread that brought back some pleasant memories...

Yes we do!,,,,,And some great memories!
And as Forest Gump would say,,,,And that's all I have to say about that!

[DWalt]

There was one - still haven't figured out why I walked away. I hope it was for the best.

[walkin jack]

Here's another of my favorites. Better get out 3 hankies...this's gonna hurt ya....

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[LVSteve]

I'm surprised nobody has linked Diary by Bread yet.

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[DR505]

How about the one I WISH had got away?