I got a late start on buying guns I retired in 09 and my wife and talk about how many guns I could buy to start my collection.She asked how many I wanted to purchase? My goal was 20 at the time over years. Problem is i'm getting close to those 20 pistols.Now i've join some gun forums,and seen some pistols I really want,not many, but it will take me over the 20 count. One thing for sure i'm not going to do it with out disgusting it with her.I just hate going back on my word. Anybody have any opinions on this matter? PS,I hope this isn't the wrong place for this thread,i'm not trying to break the rules.

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Aloha,

My Wife is OK with my getting a boat, a 4 x 4 truck and guns.

She knows when I die, it's ALL hers.

As she tells other Wives, she'd rather have me spending money on boats.

trucks or guns.

That way she knows where I'm NOT. Bars, booze and women.

All Bad for the family.

FWIW, my Wife can drive the boat, the truck with trailer, she likes BBQ guns and likes to shoot.

How can I go wrong?

Like Yogi, I have a wife that is very tolerant of my gun addiction. She know that I have a bunch and enjoy them a lot. She also knows, the only porn I view is beautifully naked revolvers, rifles and shotguns. (I much prefer them with any person attached!) So as long as the money of the family is in decent shape, she doesn't mind. I have retired and have a part time job that gives me spare cash, without dipping into retirement funds now. But when thing were very tight, guns were sold and life went on!

Ivan

Assuming your finances allow further acquisitions without jeopardizing your lifestyle, maybe getting her involved would ease your conscience.

If she shows any interest, then a concealed carry course, and letting her choose her own carry piece might lead the way to a new hobby partnership.

Start in increments of 5 at a time....

Your not breaking a promise, your just changing your mind.

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Don

Once you reach 19 guns, all future guns are acquired on a trial basis. You are trying to determine which one's to keep and which one's to sell. Now if your like me, it will take the rest of your life to figure it out, maybe even a little longer.

i go buy the rule if i can hide it i can keep it. how bout i always had that one

Has she been a smart investor or a spendthrift? If it's the later,I'd just buy what you like

One of my buddies only collects Glocks, because they all look alike and his wife never knows when he gets a new one.

"Investing" in guns is a lot more fun than buying another CD at .03%.

However, your word is your word.

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One thing ....... don't share your post with her........ well at least without editing it..........she might not understand.... exactly what you find "disgusting"



LOL.......just pulling your chain!

Just have an open and honest discussion with her before you do what you want

My wife is not interested nor do I announce every time I buy a new tool and that goes for guns as well.

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Sounds to me like 20 is a good start. Now you can begin buying in earnest.

All I can say is you better be careful disgusting something with her.

I think we all start out collecting with a modest goal. My original goal (way back when) was 20 guns net acquired over 5 years. That's exactly how it worked out... but I never set a hard cap. That's a very dangerous thing to do.

40 years later, I have a new cap of sorts. I won't say what it is but this time it's based on three things (and all of them determined and set by me): 1) Available room in my safes (obvious!), 2) My practical ability to manage the collection (the most critical factor), and 3) Overall value not to exceed my gun collection insurance policy limit (which is reevaluated annually).

The thing is that I'm pretty much where I want to be. I'm not just at an artificiality set limit (to please a spouse or whatever). I'm pretty much at a practical limit that even I can see.

Yes, I will add a few more guns in the future and yes I will sell some too in order to stay as close to that practical limit as possible.

Bottom line: When starting out, just have a goal. Don't have an absolute limit and don't make any promises! Later, you'll know when the time comes to set yourself a practical limit... but set it on your own terms, not someone else's.

I don't have any limits..........

If I'm ever asked by my lit'l sweet bride of forty something years,
about a resent purchase or a proposed one, I jest say, "Well, I don't golf,
fish, gamble or tom cat around....I gotta be doin' something...."


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My wife of 35 years usual comment is "don't you have enough already?"...then I inform her about proposed "common sense" gun legislation here in California, and spout off the names of the politicians proposing them...usually ends that debate quickly...

My wife knows very little about guns so 1911's are a breeze to buy. Just tell her that I changed the grips.

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I will not lie or 'color the truth'. When she asks why I need yet another gun, I ask her how many pairs of shoes does she have?

It doesnt sound from what I read that you gave your word on that exact amount? So I think your good.

As a guy who was married for almost 30 years and was the main bread winner, but did his damnedest to keep the peace (I was an idiot!),I see this as a control issue.The bills are paid? Foods on the table? Income isn't too tight? Why should she care how many you own?

Sir! you're a bad enfluence but, one I can live with.

Maybe I'm the world's worst husband, but the thought of having to ask my wife about a firearm purchase or how many I can own would never occur to me. I'm already familiar with her views on guns ("They all look alike") and gun shows ('It stinks in here"), so why would I bother?

Geez!!!

Hmm..I can't say I ever started out to collect. in fact, every gun I own has been fired. My wife tolerates it. Her marching orders were, "I don't care what toys you have, just use what you have. If it sits, it should go." We both know I've fallen short of that, in that some items do sit. However, there's an upside that she came to realize on her own. An epiphany if you will.

In the past few years especially, this country has had its issues, including politicians, threats against gun ownership, civil unrest, etc. None of which I've ever played up. My wife now has 3 handguns of her own, a carry permit, NRA Pistol certificates, and when I'm not looking, she thanks the spirits that I have what I have. Not only does she feel safer, she's also seen how the values have increased and our 401 has decreased. I recommend a spreadsheet as a visual aid for that discussion. Oh, she might still might not agree with some duplicates I have, but in the end i think she realizes that the same attitude that lead to those purchases also lead to my being prepared and her feeling safe.

Give your wife credit. She might surprise you. After all, she married you didn't she...

Nothing in the rules prohibits you from renegotiating the terms of your current agreement.

I used to think I was smart and would bring home guitars in cases that were like ones I already had. Of course they started to pile up and one day my wife said....Seriously, did you think I wouldn't know dumb***? So now i just let her know when I'm buying something new.

Now I have to figure out a way to make her think it was her idea before I buy anything!

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Wife goes by "what I need". I try to explain it's beyond need into want. She thinks I have enough. (I do, but then we get back into "wants" over "needs").

Heck of it is, I can afford pretty much any gun I want at this point but restrain myself to keep the peace.

Easy fix: Just tell her she can buy "a few" more shoes if you can buy "a few" more guns. Bet it works like a charm.*s*

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I thought you are a former MARINE!! WHAT....happened to ADAPT....IMPROVISE .... & OVERCOME!!! I don't understand....this...whine ****!! Next ....you will ask How to Beg.....& learn to say"yes dear"!! Sad....so sad...SNIFF! Gone from....Ramrod straight....Dress Blues.....to....THIS!! Ahhhh,notice how SMART & Brave....I am!! I'm single!!
Jim

20 guns, huh?........... That's K frames, right?

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Two admittedly lame approaches borrowed from the automotive world that might work --

1) The car salesman approach: "I thought you understood that I meant 20 guns each."

2) The car guy approach: "Oh, those are just parts guns."

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Lmao,The Gunny ain't nothing on her,i'm just a PVT,again now..Oorah...Semper Fi.

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my wife and i do not inquire what the other is intending to buy before the purchase is made.....she does her thing and i do mine....been this way for 50 years.....

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Negotiation is part of life, remember if your lovely wife is not willing ya gotta live up to your word. May I suggest ya open the talks with flowers and a nice bottle of vino. In extreme cases, I've also found that crying and begging can be effective tools in achieving your desired goal

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I just reread your post and Bubba you are home free. You and your lovely wife agreed that 20 firearms would be all you needed to START your collection. Well now that you’ve reached your starting point, go ahead and buy enough guns to finish your collection. Bubba ya can thank me later, OK.
P.s. I can sometimes get friends wives upset with me. Just ask anyone about me and the Big E..

I've told my wife on more than one occasion that my last purchase was going to be "my last purchase"...

thank goodness she loves and understands me...

Bill, you have to remember that you be da-man

Fred

Like almost everything in our lives - we allocate a certain amount monthly to various "sub accounts". We mutually agreed on how much we'd allocate to guns and those funds are totally free game for me to to do with whatever I please. (As she is not into guns at all.) So as long as I don't go outside our agreed-to budget - she doesn't give a rat's you-know-what as to what I bring home.

When you buy a handgun or rifle of any kind just buy her something in return each time you break your promise.

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Oh no, that's a dead giveaway. Just wait until she is not home, then bring it in house, works every time for me.

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Don

It never even crossed my mind to ask my wife for permission to buy anything. Might ask her opinion, but that's about it.

DW

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Heres a perfedctly good excuse use if necessary? Just tell her you need a S&W .38 just because that's what Lt. James Doohan carried in WWII. Also, his had Pearl grips too. I dont know what frame or designation his .38 was? so I guess you may have to buy one of each configuration to figger it out. :-))))

Well you can always play on what definition of 20 is Was it 20 total or 20 bottomfeeders + 20 revolvers (in blue) + 20 revolvers (in SS) + 20 rifles Possibilities are endless and you don't have to break your word - just "clarify" your initial statement

I can't understand what most of you guys are talking about. The last opportunity that came my way, I thought about taking a pass and my wife went and bought it instead.

So, 20 is a start.

Did you discuss a limit?

You made it to your goal, now it is time to set a new goal.

Plus it is easier to ask forgiveness than permission.

If I want something and we can afford it I get it. If my wife wants something and we can afford it she gets it.
Paul
Salome, AZ

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Salome, AZ

If none of the above works you can always go to the 'wife special' response..."What? This old thing? I've had it for years."

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Why duck?? It's a 9mm!

Make both of you happy. Take the old revolvers you don't like, weld them to a small chain, add a quick link, and say "Honey, I bought you a charm bracelet for our anniversary." She will be happy to have a piece of jewelry that is not only unique and fashionable, but very useful for self defense.


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