RANT - What Has Happened to Common Courtesy?

[BigBoy99]

A fellow (who shall remain anonymous) was looking for a certain gun which I have and was wanting to sell. I took about a dozen pictures of the gun, showing all sides and marks. I sent these off in a direct email with a description and asking price which was negotiable. The email was sent about three weeks ago and I have yet to hear anything! Not so much as "Thanks for the pictures" or "Your price is not in my range" or "It is not exactly what I'm looking for." Nothing - total silence. I'm sure the email went as I copied his email address from the email he sent to me.

If someone is looking for an item, one would think they would have at least the common courtesy to acknowledge the receipt of a reply to their wanted ad. RANT OFF!

[Arik]

Could have went to spam. Just saying. I almost never check mine and on the few occasions I do I find emails I was waiting for, although usually they are just confirmation.

Having said that I personally don't care and would rather not get an email with a "Thanks" in it. You asked for pictures, I sent the to you. The rest is up to you. If you want to buy it let me know, if you need time to get the money let me know, otherwise it's still for sale.

Sent from my XT1650 using Tapatalk

[bigwheelzip]

Not to make an excuse for anyone, but my incoming and outgoing emails don't get delivered if they contain more than a couple of high resolution pictures. There is a limit to the size, I think it's 2mb, or at least it used to be. There is no error message, it just fails to do anything. Maybe he's still waiting on you?

[gman51]

I have several people that can't even receive an email with any length to it let alone with pictures.
But yes there are some inconsiderate people.
I have had people send me an email saying this is not spam...I am interested in buying your gun. I send an email. Then I don't hear from them or maybe it will take a couple weeks.

[steelslaver]

I agree with the spam part. I requested a Drivers License photo from a guy on here wanting to sell a gun before I sent the money off. Wanted to check out who Iwas sending a postal money order to. Bit of caution on my part. Never came. He checked with me he by PM to see if I got it after I didn't reply. Looked and found it in my junk mail.

Your reply could have ended up in his junk or yours in his.

But, I also agree, lots of clots around the country.

[Jack Flash]

Look on the bright side:

1. If it's like you think it is, you're probably better off not dealing with him.
2. Now that you have lots of good pictures of it, you can sell it in the Forum Classifieds.

[cowart]

Originally Posted by BigBoy99

I'm sure the email went as I copied his email address from the email he sent to me.

Some people get so many unwanted emails that they adopt a technique known as "white listing". Just the opposite of "black listing". If the incoming email's sender is not in a file of authorized senders, it is routed to a folder other than the IN folder.

[the ringo kid]

Originally Posted by BigBoy99

A fellow (who shall remain anonymous) was looking for a certain gun which I have and was wanting to sell. I took about a dozen pictures of the gun, showing all sides and marks. I sent these off in a direct email with a description and asking price which was negotiable. The email was sent about three weeks ago and I have yet to hear anything! Not so much as "Thanks for the pictures" or "Your price is not in my range" or "It is not exactly what I'm looking for." Nothing - total silence. I'm sure the email went as I copied his email address from the email he sent to me.

If someone is looking for an item, one would think they would have at least the common courtesy to acknowledge the receipt of a reply to their wanted ad. RANT OFF!

Hate to say it but--it went the way of the Dinosaur. Just drive for about 40 seconds anywhere in my area-and you'll see what I mean?

[Glashaus]

Originally Posted by the ringo kid

Hate to say it but--it went the way of the Dinosaur. Just drive for about 40 seconds anywhere in my area-and you'll see what I mean?

Hey Ringo, I didn't know that you lived in Houston?

[ace22]

there was another recent thread regarding rude inconsiderate people here.
regarding this one, 3 weeks have passed and if the prospective buyer didn't get the pics but was really interested don't you guys think that maybe he would inquire as to where the pics are?

simpler answer is although there are still many upstanding considerate people we have devolved into a rude inconsiderate society. that's my opinion and until i percieve an overall change for the better i'm sticking with that opinion.

[kthom]

These days, it seems that common courtesy is not very common in many places. The chances of it being on display are two: slim and none! And Slim has gone home to Texas (where he seems to be alive and well in the more rural parts)!!!

[JSR III]

Have you sent a follow up email or PM asking if he got the pictures and if so was there any interest?

I agree however, that manners are a thing of the past. Many folks today would get the photos and if not interested merely let it go at that. It is their mindset that the sender must know that if they were interested they would send a followup email and offer or at least follow up questions.

Unmet expectations are one of the biggest downfalls of any relationship, be it a personal one or a casual interweb one.

Getting upset when someone doesn't act the way that you think that they should is only going to make you angry and get you nowhere.

[ralph7]

Originally Posted by ace22

there was another recent thread regarding rude inconsiderate people here.
regarding this one, 3 weeks have passed and if the prospective buyer didn't get the pics but was really interested don't you guys think that maybe he would inquire as to where the pics are?

simpler answer is although there are still many upstanding considerate people we have devolved into a rude inconsiderate society. that's my opinion and until i percieve an overall change for the better i'm sticking with that opinion.

He may be on another forum griping about how somebody must not want to sell their gun if they can't reply to a potential buyer.

[hardcase60]

Unfortunately the op and the responses are all dead on. E-mail is slightly more reliable then our current postal system. Things happen. As to common courtesy it may not be dead but it is one life support. Me, I try hard to respond to all e-mails even those that get temporarily misdirected. E-mail is just what it implies, electronic mail. I start most all with a greeting and end with a salutation. The same with text messages. I detest sending a text and not at least receiving "Got it". Rant over, hardcase60

[coltle6920]

Common courtesy,nowadays,is like getting a limp handshake from someone.You're either taught it or not.

I wouldn't necessarily consider someone rude or inconsiderate unless we were face to face and it was completely evident that they were.However,like the OP,I have prejudged people by their actions.

[i1afli]

Kinda like when somebody posts a "tell me about my gun" post and you go through the trouble of researching it and answering it...and they never acknowledge the info.
Only takes about 10 seconds to say "thanks for the info".

[Mike, SC Hunter]

Bottom line......PARENTS.....Don't teach it to....or...require it from their kids any more....AND......With no draft....kids that didin't learn it at home don't get it taught to them by a b@d @$$ drill sargent anymore either.......

[Drm50]

I run into this all the time. There is a lot of people with nothing
to do, they make requests for pictures, then you don't ever hear
from them again. The next time I get inquires from these guys I
don't reply. They had no intention of buying- window shoppers.
The same ones do it all the time.

[Kiwi cop]

That's modern society for you.

I recently advertised my motorcycle on an auction site here in NZ. I was clear that I do not have to sell this bike. I do not need the money it is just I haven't been able to ride it much the last few years and that situation is about to continue due to my wife's health (she needs a lung transplant).

I went to the dealer I bought it from and who has serviced the bike regularly for a valuation. I put this valuation information on my add and concluded with a "Not interested in swaps or lowball offers. All will be refused".

First offer was for less than half the asking price. I have had e-mails and phone texts asking for more photos (okay not a bad thing) and asking for pics of me on the bike/videos of the bike running so that the "sound" can be checked out and a whole lot more.

Bloody tyre kickers and time wasters!

[crsides]

For the OP, I had the same thing happen here in answering a WTB post. I mean the guy originated the ad, wanting to buy the gun, you would think he would have at least blown me off. Nothing. And this was a private message, so I know he got it.

Charlie

[Kanewpadle]

I wouldn't get bent out of shape over it. Be thankful that 99% of the folks here are decent people and easy to deal with.

To let one person make you so mad that you had to rant just isn't worth the time and effort.

[Grayfox]

Any number of reasons a person doesn't answer. He didn't get the e-mail, he got busy, circumstances changed, unexpected expenses, computer crashed or maybe he really is a jerk. The thing is that you have no way of knowing. So why let it bother you?

Since retiring, I've bought and sold several guns on a local web site. I've sent e-mails asking about ones I was interested in and never gotten a reply. Oh well, that's the way it goes.

If I'm selling one, I will reply to all serious inquiries. Sometimes I hear back from them and sometimes I don't. Oh well again.

And sometimes I get low ball offers that are down right insulting. Those I just delete and don't answer.

Some things in life are worth getting upset about. This ain't one of them.

[alwslate]

I have had similar experiences. In my opinion the real explanation is
that they are not really looking to buy. They are playing, looking for
attention as a descriminating buyer which they are not. Probably
bored and looking for pics and probably don't even have the money to
buy anyway. Or thinking some fool will stumble along and practically
give them a gun for way cheap. Basically childish immature people.

[the ringo kid]

Originally Posted by Glashaus

Hey Ringo, I didn't know that you lived in Houston?

I did for a year one time, but Houston is like California--the farther away I am, the better.

[the ringo kid]

Originally Posted by coltle6920

Common courtesy,nowadays,is like getting a limp handshake from someone.You're either taught it or not.

I wouldn't necessarily consider someone rude or inconsiderate unless we were face to face and it was completely evident that they were.However,like the OP,I have prejudged people by their actions.

Limp handshake means your not sincere. About a year ago, a new area manager for mcdonalds --aka--- daddys boy--came up to me limp wristed so I knew he wasnt being sincere. I decided not to be either. I "shook" hands with him using three fingers to his index finger--he instantly got the point--and knew I could care less.