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10-08-2010, 08:33 AM
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update on my personal matter
Dear Smith and Wesson Forum i have an update about the personal matter that i posted about recently. I got in touch with my lady friend and unfortunately do to scheduling problems we can not arrange a face to face meeting for me to tell her how i feel. So i have decided to write a letter to her. As soon as i get it written and sent out i will post another update here. sincerely and respectfully mg357 a proud member of the Smith and Wesson Forum. P.S. I would like to thank each and every member of the Forum for there advice on this matter.
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10-08-2010, 08:37 AM
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A letter is very sweet and something to keep and cherish. The art of letter writing is on the wane, I'm afraid. That makes the receipt of one special and even more so when it's from someone special.
Best wishes to you!
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10-08-2010, 09:35 AM
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Not a bad idea, but make it short and to the point; and don't say something that may come back to haunt you later on.
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10-08-2010, 11:42 AM
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Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Faint heart never won a fair lady.
You cant know the limits untill you exceed them.---Un, strike that one!
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10-09-2010, 01:07 AM
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I wouldn't do it. Odds are that it'll just come across as creepy and unsettling. It also can be twisted if someone gets vindictive and used as evidence to get a restraining order issued, which then leads to all sorts of problems.
Sorry to have to "that guy" again, but someone needs to tell it like it is. Women don't like random and unexpected "I love you and just had to confess it" letters these days as a general rule. Most people seem to be telling you what you want to hear and encouraging you. You need to take a step back and take a jaded look at the situation.
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10-09-2010, 02:40 PM
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You might want to consider forcing your schedule for a FTF
with the lady. It may be difficult to arrange, but it will mean a lot more to her than a letter or a gift. Since she already knows how hard it would be for you to do this, it'll show your sincerity. Just my .02, but...
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10-09-2010, 03:28 PM
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NEVER PUT YOUR FEELING IN WRITING!
NEVER PUT ANYTHING IN WRITING!
NEVER, NEVER SAY "I LOVE YOU"!
(yes, I live under a bridge)
(I also stole Christmas)
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10-09-2010, 04:54 PM
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I think a letter is fine. If you've been hanging around as friends for seven years, as I recall, it would not be like receiving a creepy letter from a stranger.
Good luck.
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10-09-2010, 05:02 PM
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I'm with Jimmy...and I would check her for a wire before talking.
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10-09-2010, 05:12 PM
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I would write Dear Abby.
Never trust gun guys around your wimmens.
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10-09-2010, 05:17 PM
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After 7 years.... it would not matter if you mailed her a letter, e-mail, video chat, airplane sky writing, smoke signal or tossed a stone tablet through her front window... you're gonna get a 100% Yeah Baby Take Me I Am Your Woman... Or you're gonna get a gentle and respectful No Thanks. Just do it.
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10-09-2010, 05:37 PM
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7 years? Are you a Vulcan?
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10-09-2010, 05:39 PM
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I agree with Gator Farmer, especially after seeing your literary skills on the board.
I'm a romantic at heart, but it's very easy to get burned by something like this. Still, after seven years...you know her better than we do, but be very careful.
I wish you luck. You may need it. Don't say too much until you meet face-to-face. She may be nothing like you envisioned.
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10-09-2010, 05:50 PM
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Seven years is a long time. If I love a girl its hard for me to wait seven hours before I plant a big kiss on her lips. I just tell em'... "what I lack in grace, I make up for in enthusiasm"!!
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10-09-2010, 07:55 PM
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The other thread was locked so I couldn't post a reply. Tell her how you feel and let the chips fall where they may...
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10-09-2010, 08:41 PM
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Your a good man mg357,a good man always knows his limitations. Good luck with that woman !
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10-09-2010, 11:18 PM
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Ask her if she would like to meet you at a bar and have a beer or twelve with you?....ha
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10-10-2010, 01:46 PM
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Naaaah, you need to put it off another seven years.
Just kidding, of course. Just do it. None of us have any guarantee we'll even be around tomorrow, so go for it while you can!!!
Best wishes,
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10-10-2010, 03:03 PM
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Good is coming........
I have been on the run for @ 8 years looking for the right one. Then, out of the blue some #^%* drunk pulls out in front of me and total's my bike and breaks my arm. I'm out of work for 4.5 months and the girl next door moves in NEXT DOOR!! My lawyer gets me taken care of and I'm back to work, debt-free with a new scoot and my Sweety is like nothing I have ever come across. 38 yrs old, never married, no kids(2 dogs), and we are loving life. After becoming friends and hanging out a bit, I told her about 1/3 of what I thought(how I felt). I told her I didn't expect her to realize it but I did and that she will see if she has the courage to see what is in front of her...ie--not another user and bum. She admitted after some time that she saw what I saw but wanted to wait for the old shift and shaft to show itself. We are together and respectful of each other as we WANT to be together and make it a priority for each other. I have given up nothing and have gained HUGE. One day at a time and she makes me smile every day. My point to this is to let you know that you need to reach down and let her know. Be kind and matter-of-fact..NOT willy-nilly if you want to kinda sorta. A woman worth her salt doesn't want a man that crawls around. Stand on your feet and be convincing and truthful. Make her believe what you are saying and what you want. Tell her why you are worthy. If she is not interested, then move on with the help of booze and self-pity. (kidding) You already sound like a person that listens when she speaks and helps her out with advice or just listening. Now, be forceful but not obnoxious. Convince her she needs you in her life to be happier than she is now. Make it clear to her that you want to be an addition to her life and complete her. Most importantly....BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!! If you don't, don't expect her to...........Reach down, grab, and proceed like a MAN on a mission. I bet you will be surprised at the outcome.........  This is my happiness..... 
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If you and her have a casual relationship, where you do dinner and movies, and she pays half the time. Count your blessings and leave it alone.
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RETREAT!! Wait for one with money and owns a Gun Shop.
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10-10-2010, 08:32 PM
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Never put anything in writing that you can say over the phone.
Never say anything over the phone that you can say face to face.
Never say anything face to face when a wink will do.
Never wink when a nod of the head will do.
Trust me on this one-I do this stuff for a living.
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10-10-2010, 10:51 PM
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The only advice i can give you is don't take advice on women from a gun board...and don't ask Ann Landers if you should buy a model 27 or a 28....
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10-10-2010, 10:58 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by CAJUNLAWYER
Never put anything in writing that you can say over the phone.
Never say anything over the phone that you can say face to face.
Never say anything face to face when a wink will do.
Never wink when a nod of the head will do.
Trust me on this one-I do this stuff for a living.
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"A wink is as good as a nod to a blind horse"
Totally i rrelevant, but I always liked the line.......
Are we done here yet?
can't wait till they get married and start fighting.....
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Quote:
Originally Posted by handejector
"A wink is as good as a nod to a blind horse"
Totally i rrelevant, but I always liked the line.......
Are we done here yet?
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I aint holding my breath ....
she wouldnt whittle out some time ... its not a good indication
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Write her a song, shoot a video, put it on YouTube and email her the link. You'll get your answer. If you don't get the answer you hope to, write a song about that too and you'll get answers from women you don't even know yet.
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Quote:
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...and don't ask Ann Landers if you should buy a model 27 or a 28....
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I heard she only liked post-lock J frames, anyway . . . .
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