After much denial and self-doubt, I finally followed the (correct) advice I received here and put the old main spring back in my TR Model 21-4. Really do miss that sweet trigger pull, but it's still pretty nice. I haven't carried the gun since I had some mis-fires while practicing (had to buy a few more guns! no, she-who-must-be-obeyed didn't buy that story either). Couldn't give up on this gun, though (until I can get a real 3rd or 4th Model HE); probably still keep it. In my experience, the lighter Wolff main springs work fine in the older guns with a hammer-mounted FP, but not so much in the newer ones.
I also replaced the firing pin with a C&S extended version (something new). While I was in there I think something might have fallen out (hmmm). Now, I have much more confidence in this great revolver! It has 50 rounds so far w/o FTF; a little more testing and she'll be wearing leather again.