I have always had the philosophy that "Women are born smarter than men ever get" -- just does not make any sense to not tell the woman in your life about major purchases (which includes most guns) -- their intuition will ferret it out anyway.

I met my wife just after she finished college at Ole Miss (she is 17 years my junior) -- she has always carried a gun (she is the oldest of 3 girls, her Dad taught her to hunt and shoot, he is a national/world champion SASS shooter). She loves to target shoot and she understands the value of the guns "we" have collected -- life is good.