Filbogado-

Where are you? What's available there? Are you in the USA ? Your board name makes me wonder.

The safety answers will be the same regardless of where you live, but if we know where you are, it may be easier to suggest guns that might be sold there. Or, you can ask about specific models.

Your first should probably be a stainless steel .38 or .357 Magnum revolver on a medium frame, made by Ruger or S&W. Sip's suggestion of a .357 Ruger SP-101 makes sense with the barrel length a fraction over three inches. It's strong enough and beefy enough to fire a reasonable amount with .357 ammo, and will do very well with any .38 Special loads. For reasons too complex to explain now, any .357 will fire .38 ammo as a lighter load. The SP-101 is small enough to carry concealed in the right holster, but durable enough for longtime use.