Just my opinion, but any of those loads will serve well as self defense ammo. Pick the one that you can get more easily and that you can shoot well. Any differences between them will likely be insignificant.

Having said that, I probably wouldn't go for the short-barrel load as they're only available in 20-round boxes, while the other two are available in 50-round boxes at a better value.

FWIW, when I had a Glock 23 I used the 165gr GDHP but I would be just as well served by the 180gr GDHP.