I carried an n frame in uniform for 47 years. If an n frame is too big or too heavy for you, you might need to be in a different line of work. My late wife was an officer for 50 years but she loved her 3 inch model 13. She could shoot my 629 and my 500 very well though even with her tiny hands and fingers. I never had to shoot anyone twice with a 44 Magnum. Cannot say the same for 45 ACP. Never shot anyone with a 41.