I honestly feel that in many ways, women were tougher in the past...
Seriously, hear me out here, in decades past, women had significantly less rights, were expected to behave a certain way with those who didn't often times ostracized/slandered, they typically didn't have jobs, let alone careers, and lived as housewives who were essentially responsible for the entire upkeep of the household. They had to cook, clean, take care of the children, etc, leaving them with very little time to themselves. In many ways, the average housewife worked harder tham her husband, because it was essentially a full-time occupation with no days off.
Think about it, I mean, really stop and consider all of the work involved, not to mention the responsibilities involved.
I also strongly suspect that the timid, subservient, mild-mannered temperament of the stereotypical early to mid 1900s housewive was by and large an act that was perpetuated by the sensibilities of the time. In other words, they acted in a manner which society deemed acceptable for a proper, respectable, and most importantly attractive woman to behave.
I don't know this for certain because I wasn't alive back then, and by the time I was even old enough to think of such things, the sexual revolution had long since run its course, the career woman was already a long since established thing even if it was uncommon, and gender roles of the past were often criticized even if many of them were still common practice. However, even watching old movies, it is clear that the image of the stereotypical house wife wasn't quite as accurate as some folks assert it was, and the role of the housewife seemed to be treated much more reverently as well, with housewives often portrayed as being more level-headed than their husbands, and their responsibilities being beyond what men were capable of fulfilling.
Granted that cinema shouldn't be taken as representative of reality, but it still often times reflects the idealized sensibilities of the time, so even if they weren't realistic, they still reflected society's image of contemporary sensibilities.
That all being said, call me old-fashioned, but I kind of prefer the sort of accentuated femininity of the classic American housewife. Although I honestly prefer strong, capable, intelligent, free-thinking women, modern women strike me as distinctively un-ladylike, and I honestly feel that the housewives of the past were stronger, more capable, and more disciplined women because they were able to thrive in their environment so well in spite of having lesser freedom overall. Women these days seem to lack the poise of women of the past, speaking of strength while displaying a distinctive lack of willpower, self-control, or patience. That's just my own personal opinion, based on my own personal experiences, and your mileage may vary, so please refrain from bombarding me with indignant responses as if I were personally speaking of women that you know and love. I won't lie, the life I've lived is peculiar in the way that I seem to have been exposed to a lot more bad people than good, ergo my opinions on society are decidedly negative, as is my view of people in general. I know that there are people who don't act like that, but unfortunately I haven't had the pleasure of meeting them.