I don't know about "tacticool schools" but I did go to the FBI firearms instructors school. Survival lesson number one, set your grip while it's in the holster. Now draw the weapon, does it line up in your hand with your wrist/arm? When you point your arm at an object is the gun lined up? If not you may have to change the grips, or the gun.
I can't shoot double stack Glocks they line up 15° to the right. The single stack G42 lines up perfectly. It's one of two carry guns for me. The Smith J frame with their two finger synthetic grips also line up for me. I have this grip on three J frames, my carry is a 442. The others are range toys.
I went looking for a higher capacity 9mm. Tried the G48 it was OK. then picked up a 365XL. that one followed me home, but it's bigger than I want to carry.
Find what lines up for your hand/wrist/arm and does the grip itself feel comfortable? Are you willing to deal with the size and weight? These forums are filled with tacticool guns with RDS, flashlights and huge extra capacity magazines. The writers claim that it's their EDC. I doubt that in many if not most of the time.
I shoot regularly with a bunch of guys that are retired cops, deputies, special agents and intelligence officers. We all own big tacticool guns that are our range toys or maybe home defense weapons. Most of the EDC is G42, G43, J frame and 365 both 9mm & 380. No one carries the G19 or 48. To big to hide.
On the guns you list I'd jump on the 365, only because I know it fits me. I'd stay away from red dots for up close and personal defense. 3 shots, 3 seconds, 3 yards. Been those figures since before any of us were born. Equip for those conditions and practice, practice, practice.