Here's a thought, I use 38's & 357's without recoil problems but for someone like your wife, I think the 327 Fed mag would be ideal if she's having problems with flinching & recoil. With the 327 Fed mag she could shoot anything from 327 Fed Mag, 32 H&R mag, 32 S&W (Long), 32 S&W (short) all in...