I have been shooting 9MM cartridges in converted 357 Magnum revolvers for decades. My favorite being this 8 shot 627 that I have a second cylinder set up for 9x23 Winchester
All of mine shoot just fine.
However there is a reason that there are two completely different experiences and why both are 100% correct
Accuracy is mostly a function of proper bullet spin.
Bullet spin is caused by the rifling engaging the projectile
Most people forget that there is both a land and a groove diameter involved when they talk about bore diameter. What is actually measured when folks slug a barrel is the groove diameter.
The difference between the land and the groove is the depth of the rifling, the part that actually engages the projectile thus causing spin.
This difference is somewhere around .008" - .013" depending on the type of rifling and who did it
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Jacketed, plated and coated 9MM projectiles measure anywhere from .355" - "3565" depending on the manufacturer. There is still plenty of projectile for the lands to grab onto and get spin even in a .357" barrel.
I have been shooting jacketed 9MM projectiles through many different .357" barrels for several decades now.
BTW, most 38 Super shooters (.365" bore) have been loading 9MM projectiles for more than half a century now, but this discussion never comes up. Heck, most of them do not even realize they are doing it
The accuracy exception/complaints from shooting 9MM ammunition in a .357 bore comes when we are discussing lead projectiles.
For least amount of leading and therefore best accuracy the lead projectile needs to properly fit the cylinder throat/barrel it is being fired from.
So, yes shooting lead projectiles sized .355 in a .357 bore will usually lead rapidly and accuracy will often be sub-standard