Unfortunately no one can tell you what the "best" .380 ammo is, much less rate them as 1,2 and 3. In general, for self defense you will want a load with an expanding bullet. In fact, there is never any guarantee the bullet will actually expand, but it's one way of adding a small potential edge in your favor.
Always tops in considering defensive ammunition is reliability -- will your pistol reliably feed and fire a load, every time. Second is accuracy -- it doesn't have to be match grade accuracy, but you should be sure that you will be able to hit your target when it's called for.
Last is bullet terminal performance and, as already mentioned, that's always something of a crapshoot. You can read all sorts of testing reports where folks have fired a particular bullet in to various materials. Such tests may be interesting, they may give you some hint of what performance you can expect, but none of those tests can tell you what the bullet will do in a real self defense encounter. In the end, a full metal jacketed bullet that feeds reliably in your gun and gives good accuracy is better than an expanding bullet that won't do either.