As the folks above have pointed out, there are many, many variables at play. Bullet shape, weight, design, hardness, variability in loading manuals - especially older verses newer, pistol chamber tolerance, feeding, fast verse medium verse slow powders, etc. etc. I have loaded 9mm for many years looking for that 'holy grail' combination of bullet, powder velocity. The short answer is it seems for accuracy and function, each gun has it's own personality and preferences. In establishing a load, I check new and old published data, call the manufacturer (both powder and bullet producer) for recommendations/ranges/OAL, and read the firearm blogs (carefully) and make an informed decision with as many data points as possible...then start 'experimenting' within those perimeters. OAL are all over the place depending on bullet shape, weight and size - based on tested, published data by the companies. I used to worry excessively if I was getting under 1.130 for example. The reality is the seating depth is determined by design and charge and gun tolerances. My loads range from 1.050 to 1.115, all safely based on published data. I shoot four 9mms, primarily have settled on two powders, titegroup and WSF; and 3 bullet types - two 122gr and one 124 - all lead. All my loads are target variety aimed at accuracy, not maximums and power....and seem to get my best accuracy around 1000FPS.
Small changes make a big difference. Despite the commentary's, the 9 is not hard to load for. However the 'window' is smaller than say the .38 Special, .45ACP...and there is a larger than normal variation in barrel diameter than a lot of other gun designs/manufacturers. I think a lot of this comes from the fact that the 9mm is a military, service load, and the makers allowed for larger tolerances based on an adverse environment
For one load, based on data, I was loading in 3.5, 3.6 range. Dropped it down to 3.4 and all the stars aligned. It can be exasperating, and I have numerous 1 pound bottles bought for experimenting that have been overshadowed by my pet loads - although I'm quite sure I'll be able to sell 'em if I choose to do so in this environment

, but that's the fun and satisfaction that comes with reloading. It's not just a job, it's an adventure! Have fun