Empty Nest??

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When your last child left the nest, what was it like? Miss them for awhile? Quiet in the house? Rediscover your spouse? Start traveling some?
 
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When your last child left the nest, what was it like? Miss them for awhile? Quiet in the house? Rediscover your spouse? Start traveling some?
 
No. I was the one that more or less got kicked out.
Outside of my ex running off with my daughter, my other first big shock was when I retired. Every day for the first two months I would get in my truck and just drive not knowing where I was going or why.
 
Originally posted by Wayne02:
When your last child left the nest, what was it like? Miss them for awhile? Quiet in the house? Rediscover your spouse? Start traveling some?

I was so excited to think of being empty nested, until it happend. You know, natural progression. Kids leave, and it's time to rediscover your spouse. I was really upset that first year, especially the first semester. My husband and I were having a great time, but I missed my son's hugs! I wasn't that bad when my daughter left, but now, no one's there to take care off. I guess for a mom, that was a huge deal.

After the first year, things were great! We got used to no one being around, eating when we wanted to, no schedules to keep, and we could do what we wanted when we wanted! It gets to the point that when they come for a visit, you want them to leave. That might sound so horrible, but it's true!

I will say that I'm looking forward to this summer. It will be the last one that my son is home. He'll graduate in December, and he'll be off, but that's how it's supposed to be!

Tears will flow for a while, especially for a mom. Dads feel lost too, but not quite as bad. You'll have a real empty feeling inside, but it will get so much easier.

You worry about your child from the day you find out your having one, until the day you die. That is natural, but it's also so rewarding!

Good luck to you. Enjoy your time once again!
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My kids keep coming back. Can't keep the nest empty. Oldest came back with a kid. Then she gets married and their plan is to live with me until they can get a place. Of course both of their credit scores suck so who knows how long they'll be here.
 
IT SUCKS!!!!!
Still got two boys at home 18-20 .
They are never home!
Also 4 girls have all moved out married, and school away from home.
I really miss sitting down to a meal with the wife and 6 kids around the table.
Enough food to feed a army on the table.
GREAT times were had at supper.
Now most of the time it's just me and the wife.
Two plates and a table that seats 10!
The good news is one of my daughters is moving back home to finish her last year of school.
I really miss having a house full of kids.
They all live close and are here alot ,but it's not the same as having them here all the time.
 
When my daughter graduated she shortly thereafter moved in with a couple of girl friends.

Her mom and I did a happy dance around the living room.

We love her dearly but there is nothing worse than a teenage girl during her high school years. Did I mention she won an award at graduation...biggest flirt. I am not making this up. Gee, we were so proud.
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We see her whenever she has laundry to do or needs money.
 
My mother has a quotation taped to the basement door...

"It's not really an empty nest until all of their stuff's out of the basement!"
 
My baby started LSU this past fall. If I had known it was gonna be this much fun, I would have had them when I was around 14.
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We were down to one son at home and then my adult daughter moved back for a while.
She's intending to move out again in the fall.

Next year our youngest son will go, either to college or the Army.
I will miss having a hunting partner most, I think.
 
Originally posted by feralmerril:
Every day for the first two months I would get in my truck and just drive not knowing where I was going or why.

I do that almost every day, and I'm still employed.
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Originally posted by feralmerril:
No. I was the one that more or less got kicked out.
Outside of my ex running off with my daughter, my other first big shock was when I retired. Every day for the first two months I would get in my truck and just drive not knowing where I was going or why.

Feral - We're brother's in domestic anguish!! Same thing here, except she left with my 12 y.o. son. I'm re-married to a wonderful lady (except she's a gun nut), son's in college. Yep, it's quiet here, but completely drama - free, which is wonderful.
 
Old Corp, That was many years ago. I wasnt worth shooting for a couple years. Stayed single for 20 years. (techicly). Finaly got married 5 years ago. Ex done me a huge favor.
My wife takes good care of me and wont let me lift a finger. 17 years younger than me too.
I will say two of the three step kids cause the wife drama, but they are a couple days drive away.
 
Having four daughters leave over a 9 year period made the transition to an empty nest easier. As the girls left though it always seemed to be harder on the DW than myself.
 
I am empty nesting at the moment, as my son is in Italy. I like it. He'll be back in a few days.

He's 22 now, and it's just not that great having 2 bulls in the same field. We get along OK, but there's some tension. Don't know when he's going to finally move out, he's not in the top 10% for motivation.
 
Originally posted by OFT:
It's pretty rough. You find that you have to mow the grass and carry out the trash.
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Yes, I've been thinking about this as well. Currently my son is the strong back around here and does many of the heavy farm type chores including chopping firewood etc. Not having that strong back and helping hand is going to cause me much pain unless I can figure out how to do some of these chores differently.
 
wife really misses the kids and grand kids. i miss them too. what we did, we got lap dogs. really enjoy them.
 
I'm a long way from an empty nest, and while I'm sure there will be an adjustment period, I am actually kinda looking forward to it.

The oldest 4 are all on their own, with 2 of them married.

Still have 6 at home, and the twins just turned 9 in January.

My wife and I have always taken care of each other, and been careful to keep our relationship strong, so there shouldn't need to be any "rediscovering" each other. But we will have more time for each other, and that will be nice.
 

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