You do know that the 9x19 has been reloaded since the 1910's with powder measures worse than todays?
If there is less than 1.0gn between start and max, that is NOT a good powder to use. In almost all cases, the company started to get severe pressure deviations and spikes with that powder and chose a max load that still kept the pressure swings under maximum.
The only possible excuse to use such a powder is for some action pistol shooting where you have convinced yourself that that powder is the only one that will give you the edge you perceive to need.
9x19 tradionally is loaded with powders slower than AA5, with Herco, Blue Dot, Silhouette, HS6, HS7, and Power Pistol being the "norm."
Next, no gun can tell a 0.1gn increase or decrease in powder on target. Even if there is a real difference in velocity--and only a "T" test after firing at least 20 rounds of each will tell you--any difference in ballistics is far below your own in built shooting errors it could never be seen.
For pistols, they aren't accurate enough to tell and for rifles, the charges are so large that +/- 0.2gn is well into the noise region for the charge weight.
For your questions, since history isn't good enough for you, decide whether you can live with a +/-0.1gn deviation in charge weight (and it may be 0.2gn occasionally) or get an RCBS ChargeMaster and weigh every charge.
Obviously, the tens of thousands producing great ammunition using conventional powder measures is not enough.
You don't blow up a gun by going a few tenths of a grain over max--you do start to beat up your gun, however.
The thing is, I have been loading for over 45 years and I can remember about four times I worked up to max loads, and one was for my Browning Hi-Power 9x19. I found that with some powders I was hitting max at less than the manual's loads and a couple of times I went well above the manual's max load before I hit pressure equivalent to the factory loads I used for comparison. However, I never went more than 0.3gn over max in order to determine the max load.
Thus, Max loads are not something you will normally even want. You will get much better accuracy somewhere below max.
Then, there are those who shoot the "ticking time bomb" called 9mm Major--and they are in a completely different level of pressure.