Hoosier,
A lot depends on the charge of powder versus the bullet weight. You will not be able to tell that much difference between 158 and 130 in a standard load. They are both loaded to about the same pressure. European ammo tends to be a little hotter....like Fiocchi and S&B. A hot 125-130 may recoil more than a light 158 etc. Your snub will most likely perform the best with Remington 38Special 158 Lead Round Nose catalog R38S5 or its Winchester equivalent loading as this is the closest thing us modern folk can get to 1950s ammo.
148 grain wadcutters would also do great and they have probably the least amount of recoil of any 38 with stellar accuracy. The 148 wadcutters are a full wad that go about 600 fps out of a snub sometimes slower. Hope that helps.
If your looking for the least recoil and making it easy on your gun then practice with the 148 wads. Also as an added bonus, unjacketed lead bullets are easier on your barrel than a jacketed bullet as far as wear and tear.