My sons Neglagent discharge

Odinkar

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This as I’m sure you can imagine is difficult to write, but I put this out so that other people can learn from this. I understand that there were mistakes made all the way around and I know I’ll get flamed, but there is nothing anyone can say that will make me feel worse then I do already. On Tuesday around 8 am I took my daughter to the dentist to get a filling replaced. It was in another town about 20 miles away from the town I live in. I left my 15 year old son asleep. About 11:15am I was driving home and finally heard my phone vibrate. It was my work (I work for a police department). One of the record clerks asks me if I had been monitoring any emergency traffic. I told her no. She then said the words that scared the **** out of me. She said I needed to call the sheriff of the county I live in as my son had shot himself. She then said he was OK and gave me the number. In a nutshell he had got into my gun cabinet in my bedroom and shot himself in the leg. It is one of those cheap type things you get at Wal-Mart that have the glass doors. My ex Father-in-law had put a key lock in it as the one that was there didn’t work (we got it at a garage sale). My son had found the spare keys that were “hidden” on the shelf of my closet. He was looking at my Walther PPK .380. He had been shooting with me a lot in the past and knew how to clear the chamber. With the PPK if you don’t rack the slide hard the round can fall back into the chamber, which is what happened. He went to clear it again and touched off the trigger. The bullet went in his right thigh on the inside of the leg, exited the back of the leg, and reentered the back of his right calf and stopped on the inside of his right calf about 4” above the ankle. He is only about 5’3” and 105lb. The bullet missed the artery, all the bones in his leg and the knee. He then walked around my bed to get the phone, then walked into the kitchen to get my cell number, but couldn’t find it. He then called 911 and told them what happened. He then walked to the front door to unlock it for the EMT’s, and decided to go outside and wait on the porch. This was the same day that the snow storm had come to the state and it was about 20 degrees and a strong wind. I live in a small town of about 800 people, but 1 block from the hospital. The roads had been cleared and so the EMT’s were there quick. He was treated at the hospital and then life watched to Wichita. One of the medics on the life flight was one of my department’s entry team medics and I go to church with both doctors and a couple of the nurses. That helped to make me feel better. When he got to Wichita, the trauma doc gave him a local and cut the bullet out. He was released from the hospital to come home the next afternoon. That night I spent three hours on my hands and knees cleaning my son’s blood up. That’s a smell and feeling I will never get rid of.

My son is a good kid and smart, but that is no guarantee that bad thing won’t happen. I found out later that he had been doing things like this for the last couple of months. I have taken him shooting many times and gave him a rifle and pistol (Nagants for both) for the last two Birthdays. He knew that he shouldn’t be doing what he was, but till this point I had no clue that I couldn’t trust him. I thought that the spare keys were hidden, but that was a mistake on my part, that thank God didn’t have more serious consequences then it did. I had been thinking about a good gun safe before this and was thinking of getting one with my tax rebate this year anyway. Now it will be a must get before they guns come back to my house. I had my duty gun (Glock 22) in the same cabinet, but inside a TSA lockbox that was also locked, but the keys were also in the room as well as a S&W 28 (unloaded). If it had been one of those two things would have been different.
I hope that this will help someone else from having to go though this. I attached picture of the round. It was a .380 Golden Saber 102 gr. I think the flat spot was from when the doc took it out of his leg. As you can see it didn't even start to open up. I think you could reload it and use it again.
As I told a friend this wasn't luck this was proof of God, other wise instead of planning Christmas, I'd be planning a funeral.
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Thank God he's okay. This incident is going to make your Christmas extra special knowing someone up there was looking after him. And maybe a present to yourself should be a real combo safe.
 
Wow, what an ordeal you have gone through. No need to start blaming yourself, learn and grow. Praying the outcome makes everyone better. Hang in there, no one is perfect. Hug the kids and talk about the event.

Merry Christmas.
 
well ... guess its time to put in for a proper safe during the after Christmas sale blitz.
its also time to re evaluate the 380 and what you feed it.
as gruesome and painful as the result may be for you, it is a result.
dont waste it, it was gained at a very high price.
Will I flame you .. a little bit for the 380 but beyond this ... no.
I cant tell you anything you havnt already figured out.
Looks like you'll have to take a little extra time raising your son to make sure you have those life lessons covered. think he'd rather learn from you than from the business end of a gun from here on in.
You might find that any hardheadedness you might have overlooked before, wont be in the way now ... use it as best you can
 
Sweet Jesus in Heaven, thank God he's safe. He's lucky that he missed the femoral artery. I guess this lesson burned in pretty good for everybody. Don't blame yourself, you did everything right. Learn from it, both of you, and move forward.
 
First off I'm glad your son will be OK. God was looking out for him and you.

Thanks for sharing what has to be a very stressful event for you. Just as you said others may learn something from this event..........you may have saved someone from a tragedy by simply sharing your story.

Merry Christmas to you and your family....this will be a very special Christmas as you have a lot to be thankful for.

God Bless.

Don
 
Sweet Jesus in Heaven, thank God he's safe. He's lucky that he missed the femoral artery. I guess this lesson burned in pretty good for everybody. Don't blame yourself, you did everything right. Learn from it, both of you, and move forward.

Odinkar,
No flames here.
Godbless & godspeed on a full and complete recovery for your son, yourself and family.
 
That must have been just absolutely horrible for you all to go through.

Thank God everything wound up being okay. Good of you to post this as a warning for others - and thanks for including the data on the bullet's performance. I'll say a prayer of thanks that it worked out as well as it did.
 
No flames at all. Thank God your son will be all right. That's all that counts for right now.

As others have mentioned, this is a life learning episode. We've all had them; some more severe, some less.

God bless, and good luck.
 
I'm so happy that God was looking out for you and your son that day. DO NOT beat yourself up over this. It sounds like you did all the right things in trying to teach the kid proper gun safety. Remember the student must do their part as well as the teacher.
 
Glad your son will recover, that had to be a very scary ordeal for all involved.

Now a technical question for whomever... Looking at that bullet it looks almost like the 'partitions' are slightly overlapped, is that how they are from factory on that round or did it actually compress a little upon firing/impact to make them overlap? Just curious...
 
When I was his age I loved to handle my Dads guns.This story could have been me.My point is that kids that age will get into anything and everything.I hope your story helps all of the parents out there to realize that even good kids do dumb things.(not saying that I was a good kid)

I'm happy that the news wasn't worse and he'll be OK.

Thank God.
 
Very relieved to hear all is well and your son is now safe. I hope he heals quickly. It must have been very hard for you and the rest of your family to go through this all, and hell for your son as well. Lessons sometimes come hard - but go with the knowledge that your tale has probably saved someone else here on the forum the grief you experienced. I know my keys are not really in the best hiding place. In fact half the time they are hanging in the door of the safe since we have no children at home now and it's a really bad habit that I need to address.

I appreciate you sharing this information with us and I know it was probably difficult for you to do. God bless you - and tell your son to remember this incident as a lesson in life...and that you love him.


Pete
 
I just got a long, deep body shiver. Very bad memories for me.

Thanks Be To The Lord that your son will be okay in his body. Now you must reach out and be sure he is okay in his soul.

With that process underway, take care of your mate (if you have one) and then yourself. The mental damage over the delayed guilt can be just as destructive as the physical impact of one bullet and it may be a long time before it surfaces. The whole family will be effected in ways you cannot predict now. Keep an eye open for it as it's alot easier to deal with now than it will be later...

All my best. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Drew
 
When I was his age I loved to handle my Dads guns.This story could have been me.My point is that kids that age will get into anything and everything.I hope your story helps all of the parents out there to realize that even good kids do dumb things.(not saying that I was a good kid)

I'm happy that the news wasn't worse and he'll be OK.

Thank God.

I second what DG says. Being 15 is synonymous with being a fearless daredevil without an abundance of common sense.
It's a miracle that any 15-year-old boy lives to see 16. Or 17 for that matter.:eek:
 
Thanks for the story.when.when I was young no matter where the old man put the guns I would find them.thanks for having the guts to post your story I give you a lot of credit.with that said boys will be boys.god bless and good luck.
 
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