What would you do/feel?

Many things could have happened to make him change his mind. Some good, some bad. But you'll likely never know what his reason was. Best to just move on and not dwell on it.
 
I don't accept the idea that things changed on the seller's end, therefore he changed his mind, and that is acceptable.

If he were the buyer, and backed out because he needed the money for an unforeseen emergency, I think I could understand. (Although it would kill my own self respect to behave that way.) But as a seller to change your mind?

The advice to forget it and move on is good though. Part of growing up, I learned a long, long time ago, is realizing that, unfortunately not everyone lives up to one's own standards for integrity.
 
That's not as bad as buying a firearm based upon photos of a firearm in excellent condition and getting one that is damaged. I got in a poop slinging contest with the seller here on the Forum. Wish I hadn't done that. I have forgiven the seller and had the firearm repaired at my own cost. The forgetting part is a little more difficult. Just let it go and move on. It really isn't worth the time fretting over it. Good luck in finding a better firearm than you lost.
 
What I would feel would be disappointment. even though it does seem a little suspicious like he might have got a better price for it after he made the deal with you, without knowing just what circumstances had changed I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and move on. No hard feelings. Life's too short.
 
I would move on and just never deal with him again. I once bought something from a member on this forum who tends to buy and sell here quite a bit. The item was not what he said. Communicated with him, sent the item back, gave him the opportunity to do the right thing. He kept the returned item, and my money. I was out about $50.00 but never identified him or mentioned it here. Just know to never deal with him again...........ymmv
 
Not enough information to render an opinion. That said, there are many pistols out there. Accept it with a smile and move on. If that's the worst thing to happen to you this week, you're truly blessed.


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old bear said:
What the hell ever happened to giving and living up to your word? On the surface the Seller is a low life double dealing rat.

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Honestly?

I once had to back out of a deal a few years ago. I admit it was my fault. It was early on in my handgun career and I had never shipped a gun and didn't know what to expect.
I should have done my homework a little better. I acknowledge that.
I agreed to sell a gun. After the deal was made, I found out that it was going to cost me almost $100 for shipping & FFL fees.
I was selling the gun to free up some money, so I couldn't afford to lose $100 on my end.

So, I made it as right as I could. I returned the buyer's money, plus the cost of a Postal MO, plus a few bucks for his trouble and gas money to his post office.

Again, it was my fault I didn't do my homework before agreeing to ship it and I apologized to him.

Does that make me a "low life double dealing rat"?

Things happen. It's a bit extreme to condemn somebody like that with no knowledge of the situation.
 
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One of the many things my wife has taught me is that if a deal falls through or for some reason doesn't come to fruition it was not meant to be in the first place. She whole-heartedly believes that it's karma and the next "deal" will be better.

My two cents...assume the seller had a legitimate reason for his actions, wish him well and get over it.
 
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Hillbilly77 said:
Honestly?

I once had to back out of a deal a few years ago. I admit it was my fault. It was early on in my handgun career and I had never shipped a gun and didn't know what to expect.
I should have done my homework a little better. I acknowledge that.
I agreed to sell a gun. After the deal was made, I found out that it was going to cost my almost $100 for shipping & FFL fees.
I was selling the gun to free up some money, so I couldn't afford to lose $100 on my end.

So, I made it as right as I could. I returned the buyer's money, plus the cost of a Postal MO, plus a few bucks for his trouble and gas money to his post office.

Again, it was my fault I didn't do my homework before agreeing to ship it and I apologized to him.

Does that make me a "low life double dealing rat"?

Things happen. It's a bit extreme to condemn somebody like that with no knowledge of the situation.
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Some people take gun accumulating too seriously. Not talking about the OP but in general. To me your problem wouldn't matter. You didn't do your research and got stuck....oh well.....I'll live not harm to me. To others you may as well have committed all the sins along with slapping their mother. Heck, some people here get insulted when another member asks them if they'd like to sell their gun. There was even a topic about that

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this has happened to me more than once.............its to be expected when dealing with humans.....
 
Respectfully, this is not about gun collecting.

It's about if you agree to do something, if you give your word, if you make a deal, shake on it, make a commitment or what have you, you are obligated to keep your promise.

If you must break your word, you need to seek the understanding of the guy you are letting down. Explain why, and ask understanding. (And that sure as heck ought to hurt like hell when you do it.) And if he doesn't agree, you make the choice. Is your honor really less important than the reason you are breaking your promise?

Your honor can never be taken from you. Only you can give it up.
 
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Respectfully, this is not about gun collecting.

It's about if you agree to do something, if you give your word, if you make a deal, shake on it, make a commitment or what have you, you are obligated to keep your promise.

If you must break your word, you need to seek the understanding of the guy you are letting down. Explain why, and ask understanding. (And that sure as heck ought to hurt like hell when you do it.) And if he doesn't agree, you make the choice. Is your honor really less important than the reason you are breaking your promise?

Your honor can never be taken from you. Only you can give it up.
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True but it's selling an object from some dude on the Internet to another dude somewhere else but also on the Internet. It's just an object. Why fret about it? If I make a mistake on the price and someone jumps in with an I'll Take It. Should I have to sell?

I understand honey if it's something meaningful. ..this isnt. It's basically bartering. No sale has transpired.

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I've sold several guns on privately owned forums here locally. There were two guns that I changed my mind on but I went through with the sale because we already agreed on a price.

On the net, if you agree to a price, it's the same as a hand shake and should be honored.

I live by a code. If look you in the eye and shake your hand, If give you my word, If say I will be there..... I simply do it without hesitation.

Backing out after agreeing on a price is like filling up a grocery cart only to leave it at the checkout stand because you changed your mind. Selfish way to live IMO.

Edited to add: My reputation as a straight shooter meant more too me than the guns I sold. If I didn't think things through before I offered the guns for sale, too bad. I still honored the terms of the sale. No excuses.
 
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