I realized today that my issue was the grip, the standard L and N frame grips are to large for my small hands. I tried one of each with the backstrap exposed, the trigger's were easy.
The K frame trigger pull is so sweet, whereas the L and N frame are very hard for me to pull. Even J frames are easier tp pull then L frames. Huh? Every sample of each frame type I've tried has confirmed my conclusions. So again, why are K frame triggers so much better than the rest?
I know a three inch K frame would be easier, I just was bring up four inches because at present, S&W doesn't make new K frames with those barrel lengths. Buying used will be probably be necessary.
I know the difference between a J frame and a K frame, and, for me, the differences are enough for me consider a K frame, weight and size issues duly considered. I'm also considering a few semi auto's as well, but at heart, I'm a revolver guy.
I've decided that inch .38 special +p is to much for me to handle well enough for me to train enough to get good with it. Plus I wouldn't be getting real 38 ballistics. I could get a 3 inch model 60, but with those dimensions, the advantages of a snubby are kinda lost.
I've decided that a 38 snubby is wrong for me, because the recoil of the .38 special +p is too much out of a 2 inch barrel, plus I wouldn't be getting true defensive .38 ballistics. Also nothing beats that sweet K frame trigger.