I have my own humble story to share, and I have thoughts and concerns to throw out there.
My Grandpappy on my Mother's side was like...the living inspiration for the old comic character "Snuffy Smith" Even looked like him! My Father is an amazing man, but he was busy working to keep us fed and sheltered. My Grandfather was the one primarily who taught me how to shoot, fish, sharpen a knife, work with leather, etc. Shooting, knives, and playing cards was always our connection.
He got old, things went to heck, and he eventually died. As is tradition in poor, white trash Southern families, when he died friends and relatives came out from all over to say how close they were, how much they loved him, and how he wanted them to have his truck, tools, etc. Once the buzzards got through picking away, I got three things:
A fine condition Smith & Wesson 586. That was the first magnum/big bore pistol I had ever fired, and it was the last one I had ever fired with him.
A Linder fixed blade knife he'd carried througout WWII. He'd replaced the deer foot handle with a big chunk of hickory broom handle, He'd made a sheath for it out of an old bayonet scabbard and some boot leather. He carved every place the war carried him to on the sheath.
The American flag that had covered his casket.
In a monetary way, I lost out hugely. I didn't get any cars, trucks, shop tools, etc. In a spiritual way, I was the indisputable winner. Each time my eyes or hands fall upon those items, I remember him, and the time I spent with him as a child. I taught my kids to shoot handguns early on with that 586. I woulda swore, I felt his happy presence with us as I taught his Great Daughter the fundamentals with that gun. Of course, to be fair, I think I can feel his presence face palming and shaking his head in amused disapproval whenever I'm geeking out sharpening a knife and busting out the 25K grit diamond emulsion compound, fixed angle sharpener, and the microscope to better examine my attempts at a flawless edge.
Now, my thoughts...As far as dying folks go, more so than folks not getting anything firearms related, I am more familiar with people dying and their non gun nut Widows and children getting ripped off while selling off his gun collection, reloading supplies, ammunition, peripherals, etc.
My wife enjoys guns some. My kids are both shooters, but nobody to the extent that I am. If I die tomorrow, they will have a couple truckloads of stuff to try to figure out. I have a couple friends that will try to help, but that's not a simple task to saddle a true friend with. Sometimes I think I should just start pairing my stuff down now, so that there's less of a ...errr....show when I leave this celestial plane. Problem being, I'm only approaching my mid fifties, and I still enjoy alot of things.
When my dad passes, my older brother and I inherit everything. As sad as that day will be, it will not be the dishonorable skullduggery and backstabbing this post started with. Just love and respect among family. As far as his guns go, my Father envisions us getting together socially and taking turns selecting guns and tools one at a time. Some of his guns mean the world to me, some are neat, but lack sentimental value, and some I couldn't care less about. Consolation prizes, each and every one of them, but there are some good memories buried in that safe, some that I may share at a more appropriate time.