Ms. Teri, my post was not meant to cause you offence, nor was it targeted specifically at you. I can understand it being a sore point to have permanent damage from something, especially during your era (which I assume is Vietnam era) when troops came home to not such a nice welcome. While I have personally known people who have suffered permanent injury in service and they still were able to joke about it, I understand that may not be the case for everyone. I have heard many troops returning stateside, say that their divorce was rougher on them than killing people, being shot, or PTSD from service. While we are at it, I also know a cop who said that his case of gout was more painful than the 357 magnum he took on duty. Your personal lived experience is just as valid as theirs is, and I do not think one can say that either coping mechanism is 'wrong'.
That being said, my own personal coping mechanism does tend towards dark humour. If you can laugh at all of life's ills, including death himself, your burden is much lighter for it. I understand that you may not necessarily appreciate this, but anything I say is not an automatic personal attack towards you, nor does it minimise your injuries in service (which I had no way of knowing previously).