It sounds like you have a couple things going on. You need to:
Put the bulged cases back in your barrel to see how far they seated when fired.
Put a sized unfired case in your bbl to see how far it seats.
Measure the spent cases bulged and not bulged to see the difference.
Use the measurements from the non-bulged used/shot/spent cases (fire formed) and see if they are within saami specs.
Look to see if the bbl is properly throated.
It almost sounds like you had the oal too long with your bulged loads and the case/round didn't fully seat when fired. The tolerances on allot of these defense pistols are extremely loose with function being the priority. I've seen different wonder 9's function with loads 50/1000ths+too long (rim over the top of the bbl hood). That doesn't sound like much but with a tapered chamber that already has loose chambers it quickly becomes excessive.
Be safe and use good reloading practices, the ok/normal headspace is what you want with "jacketed" bullets. You want the rim of the case just below the hood of the bbl (around 20/1000th's). I load all my loads that way (jacketed or lead) in all of my defense pistols.
What you don't want to see when you put your fired (bulged) cases in your bbl when you line the bulge up to where it happened in the bbl is having the rim of the case look like the last picture above on the far right.
A little bbl 101:
Something the mfg's started doing a couple of years ago. They are omitting 1 simple step in the bbl making process, namely throating the bbl. A un-throated bbl, note the shape chamber end (flat wall) and the steep angle on the lands.
The same bbl after it has been properly throated with a throating reamer that takes less than 1 minute to do.
The chambers end is still there but the diameter of the beginning of the throat has increased. The throat is now long and tapers into the riflings. Doing this allows the bbl to accept larger diameter'd bullets along with chambering bullets that are crooked (not seated straight) and is allot more forgiving about a rounds oal.
Short chambers are very unforgiving. Just something to think about.