I am really glad to hear from you OEM enthusiasts, but you are not answering my question. I want to hear from people who have installed a SS GRA in their SD40VE. Thanks for the advice though.
The rod itself will likely be ok.
The aftermarket rods weren't/aren't the problem.
The problem was the "stack length" of the aftermarket springs.
The stack length (length of spring when fully compressed into
a 'solid cylinder' state) was longer than the S&W OEM spring
stack, and prevented recoiling slide from impacting it's
designed 'impact zone' on the frame.
Instead, the slide traveled back until recoil spring stacked,
and stopped it. Slide inertia moved thru spring stack, to
base of guide rod, to guide rod seat on frame--an area that
wasn't designed structurally to function as the 'slide stop'.
So just make sure your aftermarket spring has same, or
shorter, stack length, compared to the S&W original.