A Hard Night Tonight

[TX-Dennis]

I pray you and your family (especially your nephew) find peace eventually. I will agree with others who've said it's important for you to "let go" and forgive the pain she's caused you over the years. A grudge only hurts the holder, not the "offender." I have a similar relationship with my sister, although she has become somewhat more agreeable as the years have gone by.

 

[dave1918a2]

My brother was similar. He passed in April of 2001. I was relieved because I no longer had to deal with Him. You can feel the same way, or some remorse that You couldn't help, but after reading Your post, I hope You get over it like I did.

 

[pharmer]

A person enslaved by addiction can see no alternative. Their lifestyle victimizes everyone they come in contact with. She served as a cautionary tale, an example of the exact opposite of a "Life Well Lived." She was blood, that's why it hurts. Joe

 

[mckenney99]

There is nothing else I can add that hasn't already been said. I agree with most everything the others have posted.
Your sister made her choices and she died with them, they are not your burden to bear. Cut yourself some slack, there will be some grief and then relief that she is one less thing you have to worry about and that's OK.
Try to look back and find a happy memory of your sister and focus on that, let the rest go.
You are not alone, some of us are waiting for that phone call or knock on our door.
May your sister's torture soul finally rest in peace.

 

[s&wchad]

Very sorry to hear this Dave.

My heart goes out to you and your family.

 

[KalamazooKid]

Wow, I’m truly sorry to read this. I think there’s a very simple life lesson here that this, unfortunately, is how NOT to live your life in so many ways. Kindness and compassion goes a long ways. God Bless you David, take good care of your Mom and nephew.

 

[DeathGrip]

The one thing that I had to do and maybe you need to think about.

As much of an *** my brother was I know he was taught better. (w/o getting into faith) And it's easy to say "may he rot in hell.

You have to forgive and realize she was who she was.

I pray now that my brother had an epiphany and chance to realize why he was alone on his bedroom floor and maybe got right with God before he died.

I have to pray for that. Even though I hated him for the things he did.

 

[Rustyt1953]

I pray now that my brother had an epiphany and chance to realize why he was alone on his bedroom floor and maybe got right with God before he died.

I have to pray for that. Even though I hated him for the things he did.

Bill, that just reaffirms what a good man I have believed you to be.

I take my forum friends list seriously. Glad you are on it.

 

[wood714]

Y'all would be surprised how many people have a family member just like David's sister.

He was just brave enough to talk about it.

Man, it's hard to give up on family, even after they gave up on you.

 

[Mike SC Hunter]

Dave. Trust in God for the future. You are a brave man. You have lots of unknown friends here on the S&W forum rooting for you.

 

[carpriver]

So sorry for your loss, no matter what she did to you or other members of your family she was your sister. Forgiveness is some thing you do for your self. You did not cause what happened. She is responsible for her choices. As someone else said don't let her past live in you head. Think about attending AL anon or a grief support group. This chapter in your life is closed.

 

[Derosa]

Sir - I can only offer a prayer to you and the family. May you find peace.