Attending Your Spouse's High School Reunion

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Need some advice from you guys, maybe you've been there:

I am attending my Spouse's High School Reunion as a guest. We married later in life, so I don't know anyone there, obviously.

Do you all worry about meeting your Spouse's good friends from 'the old days'?

Obviously I want to be supportive, and my plan is to just smile and wave while I'm there. I'm not going to be the subject of any conversations; I'm sure there will be other husbands there in the same boat.

Just wondering if any of you have attended these types of functions, and am interested in your thoughts.

Thanks in advance...
 
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Almost.

My wife joined the group that keeps the media hot with their ads on finding your HS friends.

She was thinking about going to her 30th. I went to my 20th before I met her. No big deal, The smokers, tokers and drunks were still the same, the Dr's snotty kid was still a snotty kid who blew out his brain with drugs and reminded me of Chris Lloyd on Taxi. One guy worked for a company who drilled water wells in foreign countries for villages. He tried to act like the big CIA guy and kept saying can't tell you what I do or I'd have to kill you. Yada, yada.

So when the wife signs herself up for her HS she tried to sign me up for mine. Only one name per account. So she signed herself up like she went to my old HS.

Then the emails started, Hi, little lady this is lover boy, you are still one sharp lady, how can we get together at the reunion. Well she is put off by this, had me type in the responses.

Hello buddy boy, this is her husband, you remember me. You were the one of the bullies who picked on little folks. You thought you impressed folks with your ability to whip smaller guys. Then one day you decided it was my turn, I was quiet and hated bullies.

I was a little larger than you, but since I was quiet you did not think it out well. You may or may not remember waking up in the hall after the class bell rung but you never said a word to me the rest of our school days. Emails stopped.

She said she did not want to meet my jerks, then her jerks male and female started. So we did not go to either. And we both felt we did not miss anything.

Like I said, almost.
 
Hi,

I've been to one of my wife's - we got married on her 35th birthday, so most of these folks were new to me. Honestly, it was kind of a weird experience - for the most part, she knew very few people there (big school) and she hung out with those she already knew (most of whom I already knew). I'm actually pretty good at making conversation with complete strangers but due to the fact that everyone seemed to want to fall into their old high school roles (which is not something I've observed at my own reunion - possibly due to the fact that it was later and was influenced by Facebook and other social media reconnecting people on a more frequent basis) hers was dull and we left early.
 
I've been to a couple of Missus fan's reunions. She graduated in '79, I did in '83 in different cities. The 10 year was a few months after we got married. Missus Fan is a looker now, but when she was in high school, not so much. Everybody was amazed at her transformation.:cool:
Jim
 
Bizarre Coincidence

I went to my own 45th high school reunion and I didn't know anyone there, either.

I wasn't in any "in-crowds" and the 45-year interval had taken its toll. It was mostly gray-haired, overweight people.
 
I'm not a reunion person.
I graduated HS 36 years ago. I went to my 5 year reunion. I was still single and had just finished college and still lived local. I did not marry until I was 26. At the reunion I noticed the skinny girls had gotten fat. The fat girls had gotten skinny. Some girls I had known in HS had married, had kid(s), and had gotten divorced. Some (quite a few) of these were husband/daddy shopping at the 5 year reunion and were hitting on the single guys. That was scary. Mostly only those that still lived local were at the 5 year reunion. I have not been to a reunion since.

I do watch a facebook group of "in memory of" that posts all those that went to my high school that have passed away. Quite a few folks on that list. Some died young.
I have about 18 facebook friends that I went to high school with out of 350 people in my graduating class. I keep in touch with them. Nice to chat with someone you grew up with but have not seen in over 30 years.
I live over 400 miles from my old hometown now.
My wife is from another state a long way off so she has only met a few people I went to school with. On a vacation to her old home town I once met a few of the people she grew up with but it was not a reunion setting and I was comfortable meeting them. She had not seen them in decades and enjoyed talking to most of them.
 
Ughhh. I feel for you, pard.

I went to my wife's 20th reunion. Oh brother...you can't make this stuff up. The former cheerleaders were in charge of the whole thing.

All of the old cheerleaders (and let me emphasize the word "old") had managed to squeeze into their old cheer leading uniforms and were the hostesses, greeting everybody, making sure everyone was wearing a name tag, etc.

Obviously, the little short skirts had to be let out considerably. The sweaters still fit...sorta, but after three or four kids, these gals had lost a lot of their youthful "charm." Later on in the evening, these babes decided to lead the reunion crowd in a couple of cheers.

Just picture, if you can, six overweight women, bouncing around in little short skirts waving green and gold pompoms. It was a choreographed terpsichorean fiasco complete with jiggling gobs of cellulite.:eek:

Then there was a slide presentation of old high school "memories"...mostly shots of the old cheerleaders in their prime, leading cheers at the big homecoming game...and then the obligatory close-up of one of the cheerleaders crying because the team lost.

Of course, you had the men, too, complete with toupees and stories of how successful they had become.

Afterwards, I received a note in the mail from someone I didn't know (probably one of the "toupee" guys) but he acted as though we were great friends. He talked about our great high school days together...and then proceeded to try and sell me Blue-Green Algae.

Like I said, you can't make this stuff up.

So, if I were you, I'd go to the reunion. Support your wife. Enjoy the dinner...and take everything else with the proverbial grain of salt.:)
 
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I've never attended a class reunion with a spouse or SO. Went to 10 yr. one, recently divorced, we all got drunk and stupid, I recall something involving a motorcycle or two. Another reunion many years later (not telling how many!) this time a recent widow. Had a very pleasant time, what surprised me was the "hot shots" from HS days were all friendly & nice. Kinda made me wish I hadn't blown off the ones in between.
 
I didn't go to any of mine. My 20th was last year, and my gf asked if I wanted to go. I told her that I deal with A-holes at work every day, why would I choose to go sit in a room full of them? All of the people that I want to see from high school, I can see outside of a reunion setting. That list is quite small. I do find it a bit amusing to see the transformation of some on fb. The years have not been kind to many.
 
My wife never went to any of her's, I went to my 10 year and the kid's I was closest to, we no longer had anything in common, we had our 50th two years ago, I was thinking of going just to see how many were still living.:)
 
Since I would not know anyone, or ever see any of them again, I would go around saying "Hi, my name is Frank and I just got out prison. Do you know what happens to a fine looking man like me in prison?" Then I would wander around trying to sniff people's hair. Seems a pleasant way to pass the time.
 
Been to my wife's 25th High School reunion. My wife is 10 years younger than me so I only knew her close friends (2) that were there.
I did see a guy I locked up for drugs. He didn't have much to say.
My advice is just have a good time with the wife an don't even worry. After it's over and you both see some of the "burnouts and failures", you'll both have a good laugh.
 
I didn't bother going to my HS 50th. reunion last year. It was
in Hawaii, and only a small group showed up. I was saving up
money for a Christmas visit with family this year.

Anyway, 5 years ago I met a lovely woman on an internet
dating site. She is a military widow who had just lost her
Navy Master Chief husband. As such, she can't remarry with-
out losing all her military benefits. She is 5 feet tall, pleasingly
plump and 3 years older than I am. We hit it off, and she
told me I was a very handsome man. Wow, I never thought
of myself as handsome. :cool:

A couple of years ago we went to her HS 50th reunion up in
Ogden, Utah. Of course, I didn't know anyone, but apparently
she was quite popular. As she introduced me to her former
female classmates, I shook their hands and told them I was
her "boy toy". She left the reunion a legend! :D
 
I went to my ex-wife's 5 year reunion many years ago. I knew few of them but had a good time as she had graduated in June and married me young in July and went overseas with me right after. They all figured she was pregnant getting married so fast and all asked about children as we had none here being infertile we learned. It was pretty funny with all the jaws dropped on getting that news.
I've never went to any of mine though. I'm still good friends with a couple I went to school with and each time a reunion comes up I ask them if we plan on going. Jan has told me she didn't like most of them then and why would she want to see them now and works for me too. I wouldn't mind seeing Lee Ann my old HS girlfriend though. She was a looker then and my Dad met her 15 years ago and said she's till hot looking.
 
Each time I get married it is later in life:eek:, so I've been a "walker" at more than one spouse driven event. Based on my past experience it’s not a good idea to over indulge at the host bar and deck some smart ***, no matter how much they deserve it. Nor is it a god idea to mention the weight problem Ms. Home Coming Queen from the class of 2000 is experiencing.

Really go and have a good time.
 
I went, but it took a lot of teeth gritting while I was there. She went to a all-grades- in- one school and the classmates were close. Just sat and watched and ate while they play games. This was in Grayson, KY. I am not a reunion person.
 
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