I have been battling this same dilema for decades. I like the feel and looks of wood grips, but with .44s and .45s, they just beat my hand terrible. I gave up on using my Jordan Troopers on a .44 Mag and put them on a 627-0. Just ordered 2 sets of the X-frame rubber grips last night. I have Pachmayer Decelerators for N fames and they are ugly and don't feel quite right, but they do cushion the impact on the hand very well. I have handled the X-frame guns in gun store, and the grips on those, called "Model 500 Impact Absorbing Hogue Square Butt Conversion Grips" Feel better than the Decelerators, and have more cushion on the backstrap too. I sure hope they are the answer to the problem.