Hi Dave,
PSI is all but out of the question with out equipment.
If you are shooting a revolver you can get some idea by extraction. Also your primer will tell you alot too about pressure. They will flatten or crater around the firing pin strike with hot loads.
A good manual is the best thing a guy can do and when sneaking up on a max load watch your primers and extraction.
I know, if I look, I can find examples and post a picture or two.
I was out earlier today reclaiming some brass from my bowling pin loads. They were from unpublished data, and over the edge some. I made a primer change and they went nuts. I took the 25-2 out and got my brass back.
In the 1911, I had so much slide speed that the recoil would snap the gun back and up,the bullet would nose dive and the slide slam closed and tie everything up. That is with a 22# recoil spring, 20# mainspring and a square bottom firing pin stop. Some of these primers show no indentation at all.
I'll try to get you some pictures.
Here we go.
OK, if the pictures are in the order I posted them you will see a normal fired round in the first picture. There is nothing building up around the pin strike, nothing sharp or flattened. This was a normal factory equivalent 230 grain load.
The next is a cratered load. You can see the ring of material starting to build up around the pin strike. Signs like this are a good place to stop and back up and an indication of high pressure.
The third picture is a pierced primer. Pressure forced it back into the firing pin and ruptured the primer. When you see this you know you have done something wrong and need to stop. Another sign I could not find is carbon blow by around the primer. That can be from overstressed brass too, but none the less cause for concern.
The last picture is a load that the primer flowed back into the firing pin hole. I'd say the U in auto was at the top of the chamber and whatever flowed into the hole was sheared off when the gun unlocked. This is just a bad thing all around.
None of these rounds really show an excessive amount of flattening. They are magnum primers so that probably helps. A flattened primer may not pierce or even crater all that much but it will flow to the outer edges of the primer hole.
I hope these help you.
These are not recomendations as to how far you can go. I found my way here through a component change. I have shot this load quite a bit for the last two years with a different primer and other than what I'd call minor cratering it has been fine.
I would say any of the above signs in your fired casings should concern you if you see them.
Good luck and be careful!
Mike