Before they start to get tired and the spring starts to go bad and maybe start causing malfunctions? I'm really wanting to know especially for my everyday carry gun which is the shield 9.
I'm glad to hear that you are being proactive. Too many don't take the thought or time to ensure their carry gun is in tip top shape.
It's nice to hear lots of anecdotal stories about mags that lasted decades without failure. Unfortunately, you don't know who made them or how much they were used and under what conditions. What you can glean from that is that springs rarely wear out to the point where they don't work in your mags any more.
You mentioned that your springs are softer. What is actually more likely is that the plastic followers have been smoothed out by rubbing against the mag tube. This alone will make them much easier to load. And, you're gaining experience which also makes them easier to load. While I'm sure the springs have changed a little, I doubt that it's enough to make any difference to the operation of your gun.
Things to look for when inspecting a mag:
Feed Lips-
This is the critical component of any magazine. Look for cracks or deformation where they bend. This is a point of failure.
Mag Tube-
Check it for dents or being out of square. In defensive training, practice or competition, mags are dropped on the ground. This doesn't hurt the mag at all, but they can be stepped on and kicked. So, check for deformation and dents. Any dented or out of square mag tube is cause for rejection. This can cause the spring or follower to bind which will stop the mag from feeding.
Base Plate-
Check for cracks or wear. If the base plate fails, all your rounds will spit out on the ground. That would be bad. So, just look at them and see that they are in sound condition.
Cleanliness-
Dirt is probably the number one cause of magazine failure. All it takes is one little pebble to jam up the works. They can wedge in the follower or cause undue wear on the tube. It is a good idea to disassemble your mags now and then and just wipe them out.