Before you write a substantial check, read the contract . . .
I think my dad was bamboozled. UPDATE: Post 38. NEWS may get involved.
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CBus660R
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I had a great aunt donate her body to a med school. After a year, her ashes were returned to the family. She got the idea from my cousin (her grand daughter) after my cousin's experience in medical school, it really is beneficial to work on the real thing.
I come from a big funeral director family. Father, 5 uncles 8 cousins and a large bunch of second cousins and my wishes are to be cremated and the ashes spread out on the mountain behind my house. Going to use a local undertaker not my family as I'm not that close.
My father sold prepaid services in the late 60s till he retired in the early 80s but anything he did was way above board. I was with him when he sold his one man business to another local small shop and it was well written into the contract to protect the people that prepaid after he left the business.
That was the way my father did business but I know some nasty stories that happened at some other businesses. I honestly do not know how my cousins do business but their fathers were old school like my father and I assume/hope they have good business practices
My father sold prepaid services in the late 60s till he retired in the early 80s but anything he did was way above board. I was with him when he sold his one man business to another local small shop and it was well written into the contract to protect the people that prepaid after he left the business.
That was the way my father did business but I know some nasty stories that happened at some other businesses. I honestly do not know how my cousins do business but their fathers were old school like my father and I assume/hope they have good business practices
DWalt
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If as you say "Although both mom and dad's name appear on the contract, in the fine print of that contract it stipulates that there is only one funeral provided. When dad used the plan, the contract was fulfilled and my mother was left out," I don't think there will be much of a human interest story.
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Awesome! Great idea!
Just hope I live long enough to pee on Hanoi Jane's grave!
Awesome! Great idea!
StakeOut
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Another thing to consider doing is making a Living Will for yourself
After mom passed the headstone didn't get finished out. Nobody could tell us anything ref: why. My older sister had passed and an older brother. They would have had the info. We felt scammed but no one cared. We got together and got it covered. I plan on cremation. Gonna already be hot so shouldn't hurt much more.
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Feed me to the crabs. It'd only be fair.
gman51
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A friend's mom bought a prepaid funeral plan and IMO it was a rip off. When she died her kids still had to pay an additional $700. Charge for picking up the body, charge for transporting to the cemetery for services along with other IMO bogus charges that should have been included in the prepaid plan but weren't.
I plan on being cremated and have money set aside for it when the time comes. It seems to me prepaid end services aren't to be trusted due to additional charges that weren't covered. It seems to me prepaid is almost a big down payment instead of a whole complete plan. Those unexpected/uncovered loop holes IMO are a rip off.
Prepaid funeral home cremation cost around $3000 but just using a cremation only service is around $700.
Yep pour some low octane gas on me and pitch a match on me. I read about what is done to the body prepared for a viewed funeral and it just seemed so wicked. I would never want that for myself or a loved one. $10,000 for an expensive casket and services just to drop me in the ground to rot. Sounds sort of like getting a divorce to me.
I plan on being cremated and have money set aside for it when the time comes. It seems to me prepaid end services aren't to be trusted due to additional charges that weren't covered. It seems to me prepaid is almost a big down payment instead of a whole complete plan. Those unexpected/uncovered loop holes IMO are a rip off.
Prepaid funeral home cremation cost around $3000 but just using a cremation only service is around $700.
Yep pour some low octane gas on me and pitch a match on me. I read about what is done to the body prepared for a viewed funeral and it just seemed so wicked. I would never want that for myself or a loved one. $10,000 for an expensive casket and services just to drop me in the ground to rot. Sounds sort of like getting a divorce to me.
Ivan the Butcher
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About 7 or 8 a friend of mine died of brain cancer. He knew he'd have less than a year so he farmed it out to the lowest bidder.
The funeral was so low budget it was almost comical! The Funeral Home's employees stood at the door of the Chapel and collected the programs for reuse!
My friend didn't care! His wife and adult daughter weren't weighed down with making decisions or being prayed apon. I could see him in Heaven laughing! He got out of this mess for only $995.99!
My dad ditched mom after 29 years of marriage. So she decided to wait for Jesus return, hanging out with her dad. We are to have her cremated and buried with grand dad! The funeral home that did such a cheap job on my friend, did my grandma a good and affordable job in 1947! As the times changed, so did the values of morticians!
Ivan
The funeral was so low budget it was almost comical! The Funeral Home's employees stood at the door of the Chapel and collected the programs for reuse!
My friend didn't care! His wife and adult daughter weren't weighed down with making decisions or being prayed apon. I could see him in Heaven laughing! He got out of this mess for only $995.99!
My dad ditched mom after 29 years of marriage. So she decided to wait for Jesus return, hanging out with her dad. We are to have her cremated and buried with grand dad! The funeral home that did such a cheap job on my friend, did my grandma a good and affordable job in 1947! As the times changed, so did the values of morticians!
Ivan
I am pretty sure that SOME funeral homes take unfair advantage and skate pretty close to the line, ethically, morally and legally.
My Dad passed away in June of 2009. He had showed me where all his important papers were and among them his burial policy. The way we read it it was all inclusive and there would be no further bill or money owing on our part.
Yeah, right. And I have some ocean front property in Arizona for sale...
We went in for a meeting with the funeral Director and she presented us with a list of "added costs". We had to pay 680 bux to "open and close" the grave. SAY WHAAAAAT!?!?
In the 3 days before the funeral She called me at least once a day with another 100 dollar, 60 dollar, 145 dollar, etc in added cost. All in all the added charges were nearly $7,000 !
I called her after the funeral and asked her for a meeting to discuss the situation. Just my luck...she was too busy before I had to go back home but she did take the time to hose me down with a line of double talk that sounded like an old Abbot and Costello routine (Who's on first?)
I suppose my grief helped me to just let it go rather than get into a big, time consuming and expensive legal battle. It's how they get by with all the shenanigans, I'm sure.
My wife and I have long ago decide to be cremated. When we have both passed my daughter will take our remains out into the gulf of Mexico and put us over the side. No muss, no fuss, no grave site maintenance or other issues with the graves.
We went with a company called NEPTUNE. Both of us for $3,200 and we're protected from any form of price increase or added cost by state law. (Kinda makes me wonder why state law doesn't protect the buyers of burial insurance policies)
They guaranteed to collect your remains (if recoverable) any where in the world. Now if you're on a cruise ship that goes down or something like that you're on your own. Also include is 7 days of refrigeration and transportation and delivery to survivors.
We carry cards in our wallets with phone numbers to call and instructions of what to do.
We feel pretty good about it because our daughter should have no problems or have to deal with any added costs.
My Dad passed away in June of 2009. He had showed me where all his important papers were and among them his burial policy. The way we read it it was all inclusive and there would be no further bill or money owing on our part.
Yeah, right. And I have some ocean front property in Arizona for sale...
We went in for a meeting with the funeral Director and she presented us with a list of "added costs". We had to pay 680 bux to "open and close" the grave. SAY WHAAAAAT!?!?
In the 3 days before the funeral She called me at least once a day with another 100 dollar, 60 dollar, 145 dollar, etc in added cost. All in all the added charges were nearly $7,000 !
I called her after the funeral and asked her for a meeting to discuss the situation. Just my luck...she was too busy before I had to go back home but she did take the time to hose me down with a line of double talk that sounded like an old Abbot and Costello routine (Who's on first?)
I suppose my grief helped me to just let it go rather than get into a big, time consuming and expensive legal battle. It's how they get by with all the shenanigans, I'm sure.
My wife and I have long ago decide to be cremated. When we have both passed my daughter will take our remains out into the gulf of Mexico and put us over the side. No muss, no fuss, no grave site maintenance or other issues with the graves.
We went with a company called NEPTUNE. Both of us for $3,200 and we're protected from any form of price increase or added cost by state law. (Kinda makes me wonder why state law doesn't protect the buyers of burial insurance policies)
They guaranteed to collect your remains (if recoverable) any where in the world. Now if you're on a cruise ship that goes down or something like that you're on your own. Also include is 7 days of refrigeration and transportation and delivery to survivors.
We carry cards in our wallets with phone numbers to call and instructions of what to do.
We feel pretty good about it because our daughter should have no problems or have to deal with any added costs.
I haven't prepaid my service yet, but I did pay for the niche for my ashes. I got one on the top level to make it harder for people to pee on.
shouldazagged
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My beloved final wife told me and her kids that if we placed her remains in a funeral home she would come back and haunt us.
She meant it.
I honored her wishes. She was immediately cremated, and four days later we had a memorial service in the church where we had married. A reception followed, which was the extent of the visitation. Later I scattered her ashes from a stern wheel riverboat that ran from the river landing below the restored Shaker village we had visited many times.
That's what will be done when I die.
As for the funeral industry, in 1960 Jessica Mitford produced a book entitled The American Way Of Death which made the point that our funeral customs are very Egyptian. I haven't read it in many years, but I suspect it still rings true today.
She meant it.
I honored her wishes. She was immediately cremated, and four days later we had a memorial service in the church where we had married. A reception followed, which was the extent of the visitation. Later I scattered her ashes from a stern wheel riverboat that ran from the river landing below the restored Shaker village we had visited many times.
That's what will be done when I die.
As for the funeral industry, in 1960 Jessica Mitford produced a book entitled The American Way Of Death which made the point that our funeral customs are very Egyptian. I haven't read it in many years, but I suspect it still rings true today.
pittpa
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I, along with her kids, am charged with taking GF's ashes to Slovenia to spread. As for me, just put a sign on the open bar that says "Dave's not here".
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I've decided my remains should be treated like those of Admiral Horatio Nelson after the Battle of Trafalgar. Put me in a cask of brandy (actually a nice beer would be just fine) and call it good. Truthfully, assuming my wife was not arrested for my demise, I'm sure she will honor my wishes, cremate me and spread the ashes over my beloved Flint Hills.
I would offer to go past Lowe's and pick up three or four day labors with shovels.
$680 is not reasonable - EXTORTION!
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