Is This Possible?

[4506517]

My wife claims she has a program on her work laptop that allows her to monitor all the text messages both my stepdaughters send/receive on their iPhones.

However, whenever she brings her work laptop home and I ask to look at some of the texts, she says the program isn't connected or isn't working.

Is it possible to buy a program that would allow you to monitor someone's text messages both deleted and not deleted?

I'm not very technically savvy, that's why I'm asking.

 

[Arik]

Yes

https://www.mymobilewatchdog.com/

http://www.teensafe.com/

http://www.mobile-spy.com/

 

[littleriver1]

Yes, you can do that. It works on computers also. The one we used was called Kids Watch. A must for teenage girls.

 

[moralem]

Absolutely......check out TeenSafe.

 

[dougb1946]

It is probably possible. Ethical is another matter, and legal is up in the air.
TeenSafe: iPhone Tracker & Cell Phone Monitoring

Pointing out the obvious, you may not want to text your girlfriend any more.

 

[dcxplant]

If you do, be prepared to read some very intimate and private thoughts! So take a deep breath and talk to your wife if your blood gets up and don't go off half-cocked.... Take it from a man who learned the hard way.

 

[arjay]

They are some companies advertising software that does this.Whether it really works,I have no clue.

 

[Beemerguy53]

Apparently, anything is possible with modern computers. Did y'all see 60 Minutes the other night? They showed how it is possible for a hacker to take control of a modern automobile by linking into the car's computer. While Leslie Stahl was driving a test car, the hacker controlling it operated the windshield washers and other accessories, hit the brakes, and (this one really got my attention) de-activated the brakes while Stahl was trying to stop the car.

Seeing stuff like that makes me long for my 1967 Triumph TR4...

 

[4506517]

Very interesting. I'm not really sure how I feel about that.

Not worried about myself, I have nothing to hide.

Just not so sure about hawking the kids.

In don't think I'm prepared to read what I'd guess the texts contain.

 

[arjay]

Unless the kid is already doing crazy stuff,I can't imagine this doing any good once they figure it out and odds are,they will.

 

[P&R Fan]

As a Private Investigator I get calls about this often. I tell the client they need to have access to the other phone. Also they need to be on the cell account with the other person. There are a number of companies that offer this. I know of one that one of my clients used. She was able to read every text message, have a list of all calls, with times and durations, and every website visited on his smart phone. It would send this information to her smart phone or computer. Cost was $79.99 a year for the phone. It is also available on a computer for $99.99 per year.
This works very well.
To install on the phone is a bit technical. We took the phone in to US Cellular and had a rep install it. The one on the computer is apparently very simple to install.
Jim

 

[rwsmith]

What she is probably telling you.....

What your wife is telling you is that she thinks it's better that you don't know what your stepdaughters are saying and that she has a handle on it.

 

[gregintenn]

Man, there are some things you think you want to know, but once you know them, you 1)realize you were wrong, and 2)you can never unknow them.

LET IT GO!

 

[Comrad]

Violating your children's privacy is a terrible idea. What ever happened to knowing your kids and having open and honest communication?

 

[Eagle 477]

To coin a phrase "Wish I didn't know NOW, What I didn't Know then"

 

[venomballistics]

Violating your children's privacy is a terrible idea. What ever happened to knowing your kids and having open and honest communication?

exactly....
had this garbage snoop tech trash existed in the days of my misspent youth, I'd have no good stories to share today, now that the statute of limitations is up

 

[Arik]

Violating your children's privacy is a terrible idea. What ever happened to knowing your kids and having open and honest communication?

If only this was around when I was a teen. My dad would have been all over it! Never mind the fact that I was a good kid with good grades.

 

[Onomea]

What your wife is telling you is that she thinks it's better that you don't know what your stepdaughters are saying and that she has a handle on it.

This.

I have a friend with three teenage daughters that his wife monitors their texting with a program like this. I think more appropriate that mom do this for daughters than dad.

 

[Jst1mr]

The modern version of picking the lock on your daughter's diary, huh? Not for me, I guess - I prefer trust and honesty and the healthy relationship that comes from those.

 

[GatorFarmer]

Might want to put some Ambien in their juice...then when they are having sweet nappy time, you can get them chipped like a golden retriever...Solemn nod.

 

[Jessie]

The modern version of picking the lock on your daughter's diary, huh? Not for me, I guess - I prefer trust and honesty and the healthy relationship that comes from those.

Kinda sorta except in the diary, they're talking to themselves.
But it is an invasion none the less, one has to decide if its necessary and will keep whomever from ruining their lives.
I'm glad it's a choice I'll never have to make.

 

[arjay]

Might want to keep in mind that when you're old and frail,these same daughters will be deciding on your nursing home [emoji33]

 

[moosedog]

Gee, to think that at one time we would feel bad when we found our kid's diary.

I wonder if the convenience of all this new technology might be out weighed by the loss of trust in others.

 

[JcMack]

Are the daughters the only ones being monitored??

 

[tbgunner88]

Are the daughters the only ones being monitored??

I was thinking the same thing. I could be wrong but it sounds like she is doing it to mess with your head, and it sounds like it might be working.

 

[GatorFarmer]

Might want to keep in mind that when you're old and frail,these same daughters will be deciding on your nursing home [emoji33]

Yep. That is how a man ends up in the third worst facility in Mississippi, despite never having previously set foot in the state....

 

[cowart]

My wife claims she has a program on her work laptop that allows her to monitor all the text messages both my stepdaughters send/receive on their iPhones.

And they can bypass your wife by buying a $14.99 Tracfone. They don't even have to give their real names.

 

[Hillbilly77]

What your wife is telling you is that she thinks it's better that you don't know what your stepdaughters are saying and that she has a handle on it.

That reminds me of the scene in "Mystery, Alaska" where the teenage daughter was talking with her mother about "boyfriend" stuff.
The father entered the room and demanded to know what was going on.
The mother tried to tell him to leave the room, finally telling him, "....if you don't leave, I swear I'll tell you."

 

[williamlayton]

Moms "feel" the need to know what daughters are doing/saying.
Sometimes this is good--sometimes awkward.
I suppose that it is the mothering instinct---nosy is another good term. BUT, being nosy can be a good thing.
In the growing "police" state of the US--Cps, for instance, can be a terrible tool used. Your damned if you do and damned if you don't---your supposed to know to be responsible and invading privacy if you do.
I know that moms and daughters have private conversations that men are not to know anything about.
On the other hand---where is the line ?
Blessings

 

[rwsmith]

It depends an awful lot on the kid.....

When he was doing well, we felt we had no need to snoop and had a good trusting and open relationship for many years. When he decided that he wanted to be a criminal for a living, lying at every turn and hiding contraband (drugs and guns) trusting and open relationships with our kid went out the window.