David LaPell
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I have a strange family and its days like today when I wonder if I were adopted. Today I found out my very capable yet somewhat lazy 23 year old nephew is panhandling. Not really but virtually online. He's asking for donations so he can buy guns and ammo to do better Youtube videos with. I told him that it might be against the rules to ask for donations like that, and since he has no job and has no inclination of getting one, he really would rather fleece people. By the way he collects money from Social security and when he has been told to go look for work, he finds excuses left and right. He's only ever had one job in his life, working as a security guard and he got fired his first day. I asked him about flipping burgers and he told me he wasn't about to do that. He can't be totally blamed, he lives with his Mom and her boyfriend of the month. Her boyfriends father is loaded, and gave them a house and a car when he was tired of his.
To date the house which is maybe ten years old now has no working heat, A/C, septic and the other day a pipe broke because between the three of them no one wanted to go out and turn the water off under the house to the hoses. They just called in a plumber or whoever and sent the bill to boyfriend's Dad. The boyfriend is 50, sleeps until noon and then does nothing but watch TV all day. I have pretty much washed my hands of them.
Last night I was talking to my mother, not sure what's going on with her lately but I don't want to inherit it. She hardly comes up to see us anymore, we try to get to see her but with my son in school and he has stuff he does on Sundays for church school, its hard. Anyway, she told us a couple weeks back that he wants to do more with him and his school activities. I hated to tell her most happen in the fall and early part of the year because he's in pre-K. When ever something came up, I told her, but she was busy. Last night I told her that there is a school event coming up on this Friday. I got a lot of not being sure and maybe and he does that anyway and why does she have to be there at a certain time etc. This is nothing new, my parents never attended school functions or sporting events of mine either and my Mom never even sees or attempts to see my older sisters three kids.
I told my wife last night that I rather spend time with her family. Her dad when he was alive treated me better in the short time I knew him than my own did all along. Her 96 year old aunt God bless her was one of the smartest and nicest people I ever met and her brother that lives closest helps us if we ever needs it and invites me over to his house more than my own family does. To be honest my grandparents are gone and I spent a lot of time with them growing up and one uncle I was close to is pretty far away, but its sad when your own family is getting to the point where they seem like strangers now. I would like to hope my nephew straightens out but it just seems like he's getting worse and I have a feeling that like his Mom he's going to end up in jail or worse. My mother, well, I decided that whatever she misses in my son's life is her problem. You can't get the years back, and I try to enjoy them with him as much as I can.
To date the house which is maybe ten years old now has no working heat, A/C, septic and the other day a pipe broke because between the three of them no one wanted to go out and turn the water off under the house to the hoses. They just called in a plumber or whoever and sent the bill to boyfriend's Dad. The boyfriend is 50, sleeps until noon and then does nothing but watch TV all day. I have pretty much washed my hands of them.
Last night I was talking to my mother, not sure what's going on with her lately but I don't want to inherit it. She hardly comes up to see us anymore, we try to get to see her but with my son in school and he has stuff he does on Sundays for church school, its hard. Anyway, she told us a couple weeks back that he wants to do more with him and his school activities. I hated to tell her most happen in the fall and early part of the year because he's in pre-K. When ever something came up, I told her, but she was busy. Last night I told her that there is a school event coming up on this Friday. I got a lot of not being sure and maybe and he does that anyway and why does she have to be there at a certain time etc. This is nothing new, my parents never attended school functions or sporting events of mine either and my Mom never even sees or attempts to see my older sisters three kids.
I told my wife last night that I rather spend time with her family. Her dad when he was alive treated me better in the short time I knew him than my own did all along. Her 96 year old aunt God bless her was one of the smartest and nicest people I ever met and her brother that lives closest helps us if we ever needs it and invites me over to his house more than my own family does. To be honest my grandparents are gone and I spent a lot of time with them growing up and one uncle I was close to is pretty far away, but its sad when your own family is getting to the point where they seem like strangers now. I would like to hope my nephew straightens out but it just seems like he's getting worse and I have a feeling that like his Mom he's going to end up in jail or worse. My mother, well, I decided that whatever she misses in my son's life is her problem. You can't get the years back, and I try to enjoy them with him as much as I can.
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