Lookin' like the way I'm going, (405s), with her small hands, while she can't get 3 fingers on the grip, (it's shaped for two), she doesn't have any issues shooting, plus she doesn't know why I'm asking her these things, so this should work well for Christmas! REALLY appreciate all the feedback!
I just went on CrimsonTrace's website and they are offering 25.00 dollar towards the leather holster of your choice if you bought a set of laser grips. I got a nice belt holster for an addition 10 bucks.
Ordered the 405 off ebay, $215 shipped, I can see Christmas day now, everybody running around the house 'playing' with mommie's gun, (Grandma is going to be thrilled!)