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[captorquewrench]

How long did your abuse continue? Was your mother aware of it? Another victim? Did your father ever express remorse, or apologize?


Please let us know what you learn.

It went on until the day he died--she was also a victim (and IMO an enabler at times)--no remorse, no apologies, things escalated until he died, and stopped only then.

I will let you all know what happens. I had planned on contacting the PD today while I expected some privacy but the two youngest went to to church with me, instead of with their Dad. Yes, we go to separate churches. Membership is maintained with one very close to home, but I work for a different congregation in the town next to the one where I grew up, the one that has this open cold case, so it would have been convenient. Anyway, I didn't think my daughters would have wanted that hanging on their day.

 

[Armyphotog]

It went on until the day he died--she was also a victim (and IMO an enabler at times)--no remorse, no apologies, things escalated until he died, and stopped only then.

I will let you all know what happens. I had planned on contacting the PD today while I expected some privacy but the two youngest went to to church with me, instead of with their Dad. Yes, we go to separate churches. Membership is maintained with one very close to home, but I work for a different congregation in the town next to the one where I grew up, the one that has this open cold case, so it would have been convenient. Anyway, I didn't think my daughters would have wanted that hanging on their day.

Time to stop chatting about it and do something about it!

Also, have you and the other abused victims sought professional help? If not, do so, this is something you are not going to be able to put behind you without help and understanding. Seek professional counseling, and to the rest of those of you who have had similar situations, turn these rats in if they are still alive. If they are "family", it's time to disassociate yourself from them, no matter the consequences.

 

[feralmerril]

I was brought up very nieve in the midwest. I used to think these storys were fabricated for pity. Then I moved west and got a cultural shock. In my dateing days I couldnt began to count similar storys from ladys that I dated. Honestly, I would estimate 2/3 rds of the women claimed they either were raped or molested. Now I have seen both sides of the storys. I personnaly know both people that are in jail for it, and I also know of several that were falsely accused where the case fell apart on cross examination. I know there is no other crime worse to be charged with includeing murder if you do jail time. Maybe years ago in the 40s and 50s sex crimes werent pressed as much or definetly the victims wouldnt talk about it or even press charges. I think now days if a person gets accused of it a PD that gets satteled with the defense probley wont even put up a vigerous defense for the accused. They definetly dont think it will help their image. I do belive some few charged and found guilty are truely innocent. Case in point. Many years ago I had a friend/ co worker that was accused of child molestation. His lawyer broke the girl down on the stand. She admitted her older brother put her up to accuseing my friend after my friend bodely through him back over the fence back into his yard when he found him in his yard tearing up things.
He got drummed out of our department and it about ruined his life even though he got off. I know of another case where the accuseds PDefender litteraly threw him to the wolves. He had a young woman that was just starting out and assigned his case. She challanged nothing, and when he told her several times why dont you ask her this or that she told him, do you have a law degree? So he trusted her and got the book and then some threw at him. Think he got 38 years!
Sorry, I got OT. In your case I am sure you have strong reason to even bring it up, and if the case can be solved or absolved with what you have, I know both you and the victims family will get closeuer from it.

 

[captorquewrench]

Time to stop chatting about it and do something about it!

Also, have you and the other abused victims sought professional help? If not, do so, this is something you are not going to be able to put behind you without help and understanding. Seek professional counseling, and to the rest of those of you who have had similar situations, turn these rats in if they are still alive. If they are "family", it's time to disassociate yourself from them, no matter the consequences.

My sister is dead, my mom keeps things buried away. I've gotten my help. I seek it again when things resurface.

 

[Kelly Green]

I've only known one abuser in my life but I know what it can do to a family. In the 1950's my mother's sister was married to one. He abused my aunt, and my cousin. Back then, in rural Texas that type of behavior didn't seem to be taken as seriously by law enforcement as it is today. Add to that my aunt's reluctance to press charges. She was too scared of him.

In that time and place, those with a dog in the fight often doled out their own justice. After one incident, when he seriously injured my aunt and cousin, my dad had had enough. He confronted our uncle. According to dad, to give fair warning that his abusive behavior was no longer going to be tolerated. When my uncle pulled a knife all bets were off. Dad sent him to the same hospital as my aunt and cousin.

The sheriff came out to the house the next day. It was more or less a courtesy call to let my folks know that our uncle had been hospitalized. The uncle wouldn't say who had put him in a hospital bed but I think the sheriff knew. He turned a blind eye.

I didn't know that my dad was involved until he told me the story not long before he passed. He also said that he had paid a visit to my uncle while he was in the hospital and strongly suggested that he move on once he mended. The uncle left town after being released and was not heard from again.

My aunt had nightmares and emotional problems for a long time afterward. She sought professional counseling but what helped most was when she eventually met and married a man whom she and all of us thought the world of. My cousin seems to have come through it all without serious emotional scaring.

My aunt got word some ten years later that my uncle had been killed in a barroom fight in San Antonio. I'll never forget what she said, "I no longer have to look behind me. I finally feel free."