Life isn't fair...prayers needed for a dying friend...

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For 38 years Larry and I have been friends. We were in the same Fire Academy class in 1974, worked together on and off during our careers in the Baltimore City Fire Department, and ended up living near each other when he and his wife built their house near mine.

Larry is the kind of man most men wish they could be. You can trust him with your life or your wife, or anything you own. He is honest, hardworking, courageous, and principled, a true straight arrow, and one of the nicest, most decent guys you could ever hope to meet.

I retired in 2004 after 30 years, but Larry stayed on the job because he loved it. He was a lieutenant in a very busy inner-city engine, getting more than 3500 calls annually. In January 2010 Larry was trapped and seriously burned in a rowhouse fire in Baltimore. (The incident was taped by a bystander, and is on Youtube. Search for "fire flashover backdraft Baltimore".) In the course of rescuing him, tendons and ligaments in his arm were damaged, and needed to be surgically repaired.

When Larry went for his pre-op physical, the chest x-ray showed that he had lung cancer. (He has never smoked in his life, and had absolutely no symptoms of this.) Instead of repairing his arm, surgeons had to remove his right lung...and it's been all downhill since then.

About six weeks or so ago, his doctors found six tumors in Larry's left lung. Two weeks ago, just after his 64th birthday, he had a stroke, and a CAT scan showed tumors in his brain. He was discharged from the hospital last Wednesday, and is now in hospice care at home, with only a couple of weeks left to live.

His family (two of his brothers and his son are BCFD members) and friends are constantly at his side, and he is being kept pain-free. He understands that his time is limited, and he is making the most of it and trying to accept it, but we are all just shaking our heads at how cruel life can be.

Please keep Larry, and his friends and family, in your prayers...thanks.
 
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Prayers sent for Larry, his family, and for you, Beemerguy.

Thank you. I need them.

In 1991 I underwent my own cancer battle and Larry was very supportive then. My prognosis was poor at that time, yet here I am today, while my friend, who has never been sick a day in his life, is dying. I can't get over the irony of that.

If there is anything good about this, it is that Larry will leave this earth knowing for sure how much he has been loved and admired by so many people. (His house has been full of his BCFD buddies since he was discharged from the hospital.) But that won't ease the pain of losing him, and this is going to be a tough time for all of us.
 
Larry has what he needs - prayers, love, support. My prayers are also with you, his family, and his friends, who will miss him dearly. You all are the better for having had him in your life, as are the fire victims who never really knew who their angel was. There is no greater legacy.
 
I've been in your shoes and not far from where you live; I'm in Bel Air also. Bless the hospice workers; they see this all the time and are such a help every time they're called. They made my father's last week comfortable and seemed to care about him as much as we did. Your friends honor will be well remembered; you speaking out for him is admirable.
 
Prayers sent for Larry and yourself also. Godspeed to Larry.
Can't count the number of guys I knew in the fire service who died of some form of cancer within a few years of retirement.
 
My guess is that the Fire Department in Heaven needs another good Lt. and the Lord picked a good one.
 
My prayers for you, Larry, and his family. And thanks to you both for what you have done for people. I am certain you both loved the fire service, and the injury and illness risked with the job is real. I know both you and Larry will say that it is worth it though.

Gods blessings and peace be with you.
 
firemen are heroes ,i have the greatest respect for all of you...
there is no doubt that he has laid down his life to save and protect others
my thoughts are with you both. and my thanks.
-mike reynolds
 
Prayers sent for Larry and yourself also. Godspeed to Larry.
Can't count the number of guys I knew in the fire service who died of some form of cancer within a few years of retirement.

Cancer among firefighters is very common. Last March I went to the funeral of another comrade who lost his battle with "the big C" at age 54.

I had my own first cancer operation on my 38th birthday. I had laryngeal cancer, normally seen in 60-something people who've been lifelong smokers. (I had stopped smoking eight years before I got sick.) I was very lucky; I lost only part of my right vocal cord, rather than having to undergo a total laryngectomy, which would have ended my career and disabled me.

We are exposed to so many chemicals in our careers it's no wonder so many of us get sick. When I got out of the Fire Academy, at age 21, my first Captain, a pipe-smoker in his late 50s, sat me down and informed me that while he couldn't order me not to wear a gas mask, no real man needed one. So I didn't wear one. We would come back from fires, and I would be hanging over the sink throwing up, with the old guys patting me on the back congratulating me on being able to "take a beating like a man". As silly as that seems today, that thinking was common back then, and many of us paid the price for it.

Even with modern breathing apparatus -- and attitudes -- firefighters are exposed to various carcinogens through skin absorption, contact with contaminated turnout gear and equipment, etc. It really is an epidemic within the fire service.
 
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Prayers for you, Larry and his family.......


We would come back from fires, and I would be hanging over the sink throwing up, with the old guys patting me on the back congratulating me on being able to "take a beating like a man". As silly as that seems today, that thinking was common back then, and many of us paid the price for it.

Ahhhh the good old days of brass balls and leather lungs, I remember those days well but did not follow the path!
 
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Sounds like one-heck of a guy. Prayers all the way around.

Larry is indeed one heck of a guy. He and his two brothers -- both also BCFD members who are just like him -- have had a home improvement business for many years. They collaborated on building each others' homes from scratch. He's very knowledgeable and talented, a true craftsman, and probably could have made a fortune as a fulltime contractor.

As a firefighter, he was superb: tough, courageous, sensible, fair with his men, never asked them to do anything he wouldn't or couldn't do. This is a young man's game, but at an age when most of us are retiring, Larry was still going strong, and kept himself in shape so he could do the job effectively. (There is nothing worse in a busy engine or truck company than having an old guy, past his prime, who can't keep up anymore.) In the area of Baltimore where he worked, dwelling fires are a daily occurrence, and he loved being that busy.

He's been happily married to the same wonderful gal for more than 40 years, and they are very devoted to each other. She is, as she has always been, by his side every moment, earning her special place in Heaven when the time comes.

If there is any good that can come out of something like this, it is that Larry has a chance to say goodbye to his friends, and he will spend his remaining days in the company of his loved ones. We are all trying to take some comfort in that.

Thanks all for your good thoughts and prayers.
 
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My prayers for you, Larry, and his family. And thanks to you both for what you have done for people. I am certain you both loved the fire service, and the injury and illness risked with the job is real. I know both you and Larry will say that it is worth it though.

Gods blessings and peace be with you.

Oh, I loved my career! I used to tell people I had the best job in the world: I got paid to make noise, squirt water, and break things...every little boy's dream job. :-)

Injuries are very common in the fire service, and both Larry and I got banged up throughout our careers. But yes, it goes with the territory, and it's worth it.

An old lieutenant I worked with early in my career used to love to encounter rookies who would comment about how hot building fires are. His answer: "I ain't seen a cold one yet, boy!" :-)

Thanks for your kind words.
 
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firemen are heroes ,i have the greatest respect for all of you...
there is no doubt that he has laid down his life to save and protect others
my thoughts are with you both. and my thanks.
-mike reynolds

Thank you. I was always struck by the bravery I saw on a daily basis, and the willingness of my comrades to go in harm's way, and literally risk their lives, for total strangers. I encountered some of the noblest, finest people I could ever hope to meet in my career, and it was a privilege to work with them.
 
Prayers for you, Larry and his family.......

Ahhhh the good old days of brass balls and leather lungs, I remember those days well but did not follow the path!

Congratulations on being able to resist the idiocy of that time.

In Baltimore, the culture began to change in the mid-80s, when we got our first positive-pressure breathing apparatus, and the younger generation of firefighters began moving up into leadership positions.

I remember the old guys then pining for the days when ladders were wooden and men were iron... :-)
 

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