A few things to consider when working up your loads:
1. Overall profile of the bullet. The 9mm pistols headspace on the case mouth at the front of the chamber. The bullet must be seated far enough into the case that the full-diameter portion of the bullet will not be forced into the rifling. COL is the maximum for the cartridge by industry standards, but loading to maximum COL may not be possible with the bullet you are using. A simple "drop test" can be done with the disassembled pistol's barrel, dropping a loaded cartridge into the chamber to see that it freely enters with case head aligned with the chamber hood. Start with max COL, then seat deeper if necessary for your pistol's chamber.
2. The loaded cartridge must fit into the magazine and feed properly. Too long won't fit the magazine, too short may not feed reliably. Start with the COL determined in the drop-test (see #1), then seat deeper if necessary.
3. The flat point may cause the cartridge to jam as it passes from the magazine, up the feed ramp, into the chamber. There is probably a "sweet spot" within the overall range of possible COL that will function reliably in your pistol. Finding that can be done by loading a number of dummy cartridges (unprimed, uncharged cases) with bullets seated to different lengths, then cycling those through the pistol to check for reliability. Start with what you know will chamber properly and will fit the magazine, then seat deeper if necessary. You won't really know for sure until you have loaded and tested live ammo, but this should put you on the right track more quickly. (For the loads I most commonly use I always make up dummy cartridges to use when setting up my reloading dies and keep them for future use).
4. Every pistol is different. Some will work with just about anything you put in them, others won't like anything other than factory ball duplicates. My Browning Hi Power 9mm is one of the first kind; it will eat up 140-grain cast .357" SWC-HP's as readily as ball ammo. The same loads won't even chamber in the S&W 9mm pistols I've owned, probably due to differences in chamber dimensions and the larger than normal bullet diameter.