My Dad

[wood714]

I've never posted anything like this to my knowledge, but thought I'd share, get it off my chest, or just talk about it.

Last month my dad was admitted to the hospital a couple different times, and they found he had something called MDS. They scheduled him to get chemo starting this past Monday, 5 days on then 3 weeks off...told him it would give him 1 to 2 years to live.

He went to the doc's office Monday, and they told him his white blood count which normal is 9 was 49.5 last week and had gone up to 99 by Monday. Told him his condition was so aggressive there really wasn't anything they could do. He could still get the treatments if he wanted, but he had actually decided to not get them before going in that day.

My mom asked to doctor to call me and explain everything to me, because they were such a wreck she knew she'd forget something. His nurse called me later Monday afternoon. She told me everything and I asked if he would be in pain and she said no. I asked how he would die, and she said he would just start to sleep more and more, then one day or night just not wake up. She said he has 4 to 6 weeks to live.

I'm needless to say devastated, but it's a comfort to know he has lived a life many could only dream of. He got to retire at 50, spend every winter in Florida fishing almost everyday, and they never wanted for anything. I'm most glad he will go peacefully and without pain.

I'm worried about how my mom is going to get by. They've been married 66 years. My dad will be 87 on the 8th of this month, and she'll be 85 in September.

If things work out I'm driving up there this Sunday.

I'm in no way seeking a pity party, just putting it out there I guess.

 

[robvious]

A long life well lived with the woman of your dreams and raising a family that loves and respects you is the best anyone could expect... prayers sent for you and your parents during this time... putting it out there is fine.. no pity.. just understanding

 

[Onomea]

Wood714, that's tough. While you're not seeking pity, let me just say I'm sorry to hear this. Sorry for you, and I especially feel sorry for your mom. This must be so very hard for her. Sixty-six years of marriage. I know you will do what you can to comfort her.

It is good to hear that your dad had a good life, and that he has made it to 87. It is a hard thing to lose one's parents, but something we all must go through, unfortunately. Doesn't make it any easier to say that, but know that you are not alone.

Best wishes.

 

[Rustyt1953]

That phone call I had with your dad about three weeks ago was thoroughly enjoyable. We covered guitars, fishing, trading, bluegrass, Roy, Doc and the old store pretty thoroughly. Marv is a sweet soul that made a lot of people happy and I will pray for him, your mom and you.

You know that I am at their disposal.

Call you tomorrow, brother.

 

[carpriver]

May passed after he was told he had some sort of blood disorder, he decided to forgo treatment as it would only prolong his life several months and the chemo would make him sick. He said he was ready and had done his best to make amends with the family. I was not able to be with him when the time came. he passed in his sleep with out pain. I miss him.

 

[GB]

Remember, after he crosses the river, he is not gone. He just isn't here. Spend as much time with him as you can. It will mean a lot to him and you.

I am not a man who believes that death is the end. My beliefs are unconventional, but still, the spirit will move on.

 

[lawandorder]

God bless and comfort you and your family!

 

[twodog max]

Hard times for you and your mother. Going on ahead without pain and suffering is the best of a bad situation. I wish my dad could have been that fortunate.
Ya'll take care and will be in my thoughts.

 

[quikdraw67]

That's a hard pill to swallow.

God bless, prayers sent.

 

[JET4]

Prayers lifted up

 

[Huski92]

Hopefully your mother's health is good. Keep her busy. Hobbies. Get her out of the house. Help her see her friends and family. That's what keeps my dad going after loosing my mother 6 years ago.


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[AJ]

I understand your pain, lost both my parents to cancer.

 

[Truckman]

A long life well lived with the woman of your dreams and raising a family that loves and respects you is the best anyone could expect.

I could never have said it better...My Dad passed away 33 years ago with his family around him after a long and fruitful life...If each of us lives long enough, and gets lucky we'll see the same...Enjoy the time left while you can......Ben

 

[G-Mac]

I'm in no way seeking a pity party, just putting it out there I guess.

I completely understand "just putting it out there". I am so sorry to hear this about your dad. It sounds like he had a great life. Hopefully, there is some comfort in knowing that. I recently lost my mom. I know that she's in a better place but I still miss her.

 

[moralem]

God speed…….

 

[jbtrucker]

So sorry prayers for all. Give your parents lots of hugs and love , lost both of mine 2004.

 

[Cleandean]

My Dad was first to pass on. 59 years of Marriage to a tough woman. Both were hard workers ,very dedicated.
Thank God for them . Both died in senior homes 6 years apart.
My best wishes for you and your family for the changes & challenges ahead. Prayers sent . Take care.

 

[pawncop]

This is definitely a difficult time for you and your family. I don't have the right words or any kind of advice to help you with this portion of your journey.

I offer prayer for your peace, comfort, and strength during this difficult time.

 

[SS336]

Sorry to hear that this is happening. It happens to everyone, but that doesn't make it easier.
He has lived a long and productive life, celebrate that, remember that.
And keep your Mother close, she will need you more now.

 

[16thVACav]

Prayers for your family and for you.